"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Girl called me an assh*le... good or bad?

ElStud

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So I'm on the bus and this dude is like daring me to take my shirt off. And yeah, we're all having a fun time and this one girl on the bus says "I'll take it off if you take it off" and I'm all "I'm not sure I would want to see that" and she's like "What did you just say? Assh*le". She wasn't really mad after I said it. Then I actually take my shirt off and I'm like "A little gift to the ladies" and everyone's attention is on me. Main thing is, I don't know if she meant that in a good way or a bad way.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Doesn't really matter now, does it? You didn't capitalize on it, regardless of if she was mad or not.

BTW, why didn't you want to see it? And if you weren't interested in her, then why do you care if she meant it in a good or bad way?

This whole thread doesn't make much sense to me.
 

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When you said "I'm not sure I would want to see that" she may of taken it as an insult.

Whether she is angry or not?

This one is hard to judge as its a you have to of been there kind of scenario.

Only way you're going to know the answer is to have further interactions with this chick.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Thing is I am sort of interested but I didn't want to come off as desperate and horny.
 

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I think this was the right situation to come off as horny. At the least, you could have called her to her bet.
 

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Think some of u guys take ****y n funny too far, it's ok now n again, you gotta be one THICK BASTARD if ya using it on a girl uv only just met.
 

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"I'll take it off if you take it off"

"what was that? all i heard was i'll do anything for you"
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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You could have said better c/f responces which wouldn't have gotten you called an ******* and would have allowed you to continue the conversation.
 

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Why does it strike me that they're taking the mick outta you?

In any case, who gives a damn?
 

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Haha.

Well, it seems to me that all the people are taking the p*ss, because ElStud makes out he has no friends, and all of a sudden the guys on the bus are trying to get him to take his shirt off and he's the centre of attention? Just seems like a bit prankish.
 

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WesCottII said:
Haha.

Well, it seems to me that all the people are taking the p*ss, because ElStud makes out he has no friends, and all of a sudden the guys on the bus are trying to get him to take his shirt off and he's the centre of attention? Just seems like a bit prankish.
Wrong. I've actually been the center of attention on the bus for a while and THEY'RE laughing at my jokes. FYI the whole thing started when I dared one of my friends on the bus that I could take my shirt off right there and now. And also FYI I was controlling the conversation LONG after that. Also I've known these people for a while. Haha, do you think a girl I just met would of offered to take her shirt off for me even jokingly? No. Don't make assumptions.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ElStud said:
So I'm on the bus and this dude is like daring me to take my shirt off. And yeah, we're all having a fun time and this one girl on the bus says "I'll take it off if you take it off" and I'm all "I'm not sure I would want to see that" and she's like "What did you just say? Assh*le". She wasn't really mad after I said it. Then I actually take my shirt off and I'm like "A little gift to the ladies" and everyone's attention is on me. Main thing is, I don't know if she meant that in a good way or a bad way.
I think she was playing.

Either way, in this case, you can take it as a compliment.

Ha ha. One guy once called me the "Antagonistic bad boy of magic" when he was trying to pick one of his usual stupid fights. I wouldn't go to his level, so he called me this.

So I repeat it everywhere I go. Heh. I'll even announce myself as this when I'm performing in character. And it gets a big laugh.

"Hi ladies, I'm the antagonistical bad boy of magic." Heh.

I think that the younger women are, the more blatent their flirting usually is.

A woman who's smiling and looking shocked is flirting with you when she calls you an "as$h@le."

I was teaching and a girl with a crush on me (why are they all waaaaay too young? ugh!) smacked me for making fun of her; one of the children saw it, and I had to try and explain why she smacked me and why I didn't hit back or complain...lol
 

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cNfny said:
"I'll take it off if you take it off"

"what was that? all i heard was i'll do anything for you"
DING DING DING DING DING!

Give this brother a prize because that's exactly what happened. Tonality is everything. You tried to come off as suave but it ended up being childish and abrasive.

Maybe next time.
 

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KarmaSutra said:
DING DING DING DING DING!

Give this brother a prize because that's exactly what happened. Tonality is everything. You tried to come off as suave but it ended up being childish and abrasive.

Maybe next time.
:crackup: :up:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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