"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Girl brings along chaperone to date

sylvester the cat

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suggest to girl we meet. Girl accepts.

30 mins before the date she texts she's running late and that her male colleague (who I know) is coming with her. I remain cool and reply ok but in my mind I've already written this one off. I plan to make it a super quickie before making my excuses and leaving.

I arrive to find her and the chaperone who ejects almost immediately after I arrive.

Date was alright. Convo flew well but I made no moves on the girl as the chaperone part threw me off a little. Ejected after an hour tops. Your interpretation?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Between_The_Lines

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I'd give her another shot. Not a serious offense in my view, but I completely understand why that shook you up - you probably felt like you weren't being taken seriously? Tap into your inner reservoir of indifference and give it another go. Try to get another girl lined up asap though.
 

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Sounds like some beta orbiter who was trying to stick to her like a fly on sh*t. I wouldn't worry too much about it, you have better things to think about. It's good that you acted indifferent.

Give it another shot and escalate next time.
 

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I would ridicule her mercilessly for being one of those girls who like two guys at once.

The friend/orbiter/chaperone is a sh!t test. I think you win by acting like you like the idea. When he tries to leave early, implore him to stay instead. Someone needs to be there to laugh at your jokes about her liking two guys at once.
 

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Firstly, that's in no way shape or form a date. Next time, buy the dude a shıtload of beers and bullshıt with him while she sits there and Tweets how bored she is haha. Fücking chaperone shıt, damn.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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VladPatton said:
Firstly, that's in no way shape or form a date. Next time, buy the dude a shıtload of beers and bullshıt with him while she sits there and Tweets how bored she is haha. Fücking chaperone shıt, damn.
i had framed it as a date although not in so many words. when i met them i re-framed it as though it were a business meet as i took them to my office to meet the rest of my team.

when she picked up a call :)eek: ) during the meet she referred to me as a client! the chaperone wasnt there long enough to buy any beers. he dashed immediately.

It is possible that he came along to say hi to me as we used to have lunch together previously when he worked in the area.
 
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