"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Girl brings along chaperone to date

sylvester the cat

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suggest to girl we meet. Girl accepts.

30 mins before the date she texts she's running late and that her male colleague (who I know) is coming with her. I remain cool and reply ok but in my mind I've already written this one off. I plan to make it a super quickie before making my excuses and leaving.

I arrive to find her and the chaperone who ejects almost immediately after I arrive.

Date was alright. Convo flew well but I made no moves on the girl as the chaperone part threw me off a little. Ejected after an hour tops. Your interpretation?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I'd give her another shot. Not a serious offense in my view, but I completely understand why that shook you up - you probably felt like you weren't being taken seriously? Tap into your inner reservoir of indifference and give it another go. Try to get another girl lined up asap though.
 

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Sounds like some beta orbiter who was trying to stick to her like a fly on sh*t. I wouldn't worry too much about it, you have better things to think about. It's good that you acted indifferent.

Give it another shot and escalate next time.
 

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I would ridicule her mercilessly for being one of those girls who like two guys at once.

The friend/orbiter/chaperone is a sh!t test. I think you win by acting like you like the idea. When he tries to leave early, implore him to stay instead. Someone needs to be there to laugh at your jokes about her liking two guys at once.
 

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Firstly, that's in no way shape or form a date. Next time, buy the dude a shıtload of beers and bullshıt with him while she sits there and Tweets how bored she is haha. Fücking chaperone shıt, damn.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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VladPatton said:
Firstly, that's in no way shape or form a date. Next time, buy the dude a shıtload of beers and bullshıt with him while she sits there and Tweets how bored she is haha. Fücking chaperone shıt, damn.
i had framed it as a date although not in so many words. when i met them i re-framed it as though it were a business meet as i took them to my office to meet the rest of my team.

when she picked up a call :)eek: ) during the meet she referred to me as a client! the chaperone wasnt there long enough to buy any beers. he dashed immediately.

It is possible that he came along to say hi to me as we used to have lunch together previously when he worked in the area.
 
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