Okra
Don Juan
hey yea'll I made plans with this girl tonight to go to a concert but she is on the way with her friend. they'll be here in like 15 minutes. I need advice as fast as possible. isolation? kino? how can I pull this **** off yo?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
girl bringing friend to concert (need advice really quick)
- Thread starter Okra
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
JimmyZ
Don Juan
1. Make sure that you are nice to her freind...
2. Share your attention 60/40 (60 target 40 freind)
3. do not isolate... and maintain composre if freind attacks... just smile and disarm...
4. TRy to set-up next date tonight, to make your intentions clear.
2. Share your attention 60/40 (60 target 40 freind)
3. do not isolate... and maintain composre if freind attacks... just smile and disarm...
4. TRy to set-up next date tonight, to make your intentions clear.
Shiftkey
Master Don Juan
She's bringing a friend? How is this a date?
If you can, invite a female friend to come with the three of you. If she's inviting friends, you can to. I'd inform your female friend of the situation though.
If you can, invite a female friend to come with the three of you. If she's inviting friends, you can to. I'd inform your female friend of the situation though.
Okra
Don Juan
it's a little late for me to invite a female friend.
I don't really know or care if it a date or not. I don't think my intentions were made clear when I was setting this thing up. oh well.
I don't really know or care if it a date or not. I don't think my intentions were made clear when I was setting this thing up. oh well.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
MightyMate
Master Don Juan
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Seems shes not interested in You.
DonJuanMonk
Master Don Juan
I certainly hope you took JimmyZ's and JH6's advice as they are good
Okra
Don Juan
yeah it sucked. actually the girls suck. I didn't have a good time and I shoulda nexted her and her friend early on the date but like an a** I let them hang for a while. She kinda turned out to be a turd sandwich so I am glad I didn't wind up with her. I can hang with rosy palm for one night. I drank a couple shots of sake too and that was cool. guys remember not to tolerate sucky-ness from girls. I did for one too many hours tonight and that **** was lame. I'm having more fun being a keyboard jockey at the moment.
Don Juan Don Juan this website is the bizomb.
Don Juan Don Juan this website is the bizomb.
DonJuanMonk
Master Don Juan
Ouch, I don't like how you just went to the booze because of a negative experience. Just sharing some sensibility to ya. If it was a bad experience, then let it be.. see it as a lesson not something that you should've avoided or "nexted."
JimmyZ
Don Juan
actually, if she brings a freind, it does not mean that she is not intresting in you... that's my opinion and experiance....
what it usually means is that she is unsure of how she will be with you, or if you are right for her....
and that is why they bring that freinds along,
for the friends' seal of approval
and so they don't **** you on the first nihgt....
but good for u man... if she is no good,
she is no good.
what it usually means is that she is unsure of how she will be with you, or if you are right for her....
and that is why they bring that freinds along,
for the friends' seal of approval
and so they don't **** you on the first nihgt....
but good for u man... if she is no good,
she is no good.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
ApproachDoc
Don Juan
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Always do what is true to your heart, be honest.
You want to be alone with her, and let her know that in the future.
You make the call, you make the shots.
Okra
Don Juan
yeah she is totally no good. she is a little bit too sporadic and she doesn't seem like she has her s*** together upstairs. I don't know what the deal was. yeah now that I have a hangover I wish I wouldn't of started drinking so much but I am taking this as a lesson rather than beating myself up over not nexting her. it's the best thing for me to do at this point. I kinda want to delete her off of my myspace but I think I'll wait a couple of days.
Okra
Don Juan
I did take some cool pictures of me and her though. maybe I'll use them as social proof?
The Juan and only
Master Don Juan
Don't deliberately show off pictures of you and other girls. Makes you seem desperate and looks like you're "trying to impress her".
Maybe that's not what you meant but just in case
Maybe that's not what you meant but just in case
Shiftkey
Master Don Juan
So tell us what happened. Go ahead and post those pictures if you want too.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.