Okra
Don Juan
hey yea'll I made plans with this girl tonight to go to a concert but she is on the way with her friend. they'll be here in like 15 minutes. I need advice as fast as possible. isolation? kino? how can I pull this **** off yo?
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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
girl bringing friend to concert (need advice really quick)
- Thread starter Okra
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
JimmyZ
Don Juan
1. Make sure that you are nice to her freind...
2. Share your attention 60/40 (60 target 40 freind)
3. do not isolate... and maintain composre if freind attacks... just smile and disarm...
4. TRy to set-up next date tonight, to make your intentions clear.
2. Share your attention 60/40 (60 target 40 freind)
3. do not isolate... and maintain composre if freind attacks... just smile and disarm...
4. TRy to set-up next date tonight, to make your intentions clear.
Shiftkey
Master Don Juan
She's bringing a friend? How is this a date?
If you can, invite a female friend to come with the three of you. If she's inviting friends, you can to. I'd inform your female friend of the situation though.
If you can, invite a female friend to come with the three of you. If she's inviting friends, you can to. I'd inform your female friend of the situation though.
Okra
Don Juan
it's a little late for me to invite a female friend.
I don't really know or care if it a date or not. I don't think my intentions were made clear when I was setting this thing up. oh well.
I don't really know or care if it a date or not. I don't think my intentions were made clear when I was setting this thing up. oh well.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
MightyMate
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Seems shes not interested in You.
DonJuanMonk
Master Don Juan
I certainly hope you took JimmyZ's and JH6's advice as they are good
Okra
Don Juan
yeah it sucked. actually the girls suck. I didn't have a good time and I shoulda nexted her and her friend early on the date but like an a** I let them hang for a while. She kinda turned out to be a turd sandwich so I am glad I didn't wind up with her. I can hang with rosy palm for one night. I drank a couple shots of sake too and that was cool. guys remember not to tolerate sucky-ness from girls. I did for one too many hours tonight and that **** was lame. I'm having more fun being a keyboard jockey at the moment.
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DonJuanMonk
Master Don Juan
Ouch, I don't like how you just went to the booze because of a negative experience. Just sharing some sensibility to ya. If it was a bad experience, then let it be.. see it as a lesson not something that you should've avoided or "nexted."
JimmyZ
Don Juan
actually, if she brings a freind, it does not mean that she is not intresting in you... that's my opinion and experiance....
what it usually means is that she is unsure of how she will be with you, or if you are right for her....
and that is why they bring that freinds along,
for the friends' seal of approval
and so they don't **** you on the first nihgt....
but good for u man... if she is no good,
she is no good.
what it usually means is that she is unsure of how she will be with you, or if you are right for her....
and that is why they bring that freinds along,
for the friends' seal of approval
and so they don't **** you on the first nihgt....
but good for u man... if she is no good,
she is no good.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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Always do what is true to your heart, be honest.
You want to be alone with her, and let her know that in the future.
You make the call, you make the shots.
Okra
Don Juan
yeah she is totally no good. she is a little bit too sporadic and she doesn't seem like she has her s*** together upstairs. I don't know what the deal was. yeah now that I have a hangover I wish I wouldn't of started drinking so much but I am taking this as a lesson rather than beating myself up over not nexting her. it's the best thing for me to do at this point. I kinda want to delete her off of my myspace but I think I'll wait a couple of days.
Okra
Don Juan
I did take some cool pictures of me and her though. maybe I'll use them as social proof?
The Juan and only
Master Don Juan
Don't deliberately show off pictures of you and other girls. Makes you seem desperate and looks like you're "trying to impress her".
Maybe that's not what you meant but just in case
Maybe that's not what you meant but just in case
Shiftkey
Master Don Juan
So tell us what happened. Go ahead and post those pictures if you want too.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.