"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Hey love. I meant to text you back yesterday buy I was training police k9's all day. So I was super busy. I'm good. How are you?

Cool doing alot better back home finally and been able to get myself back together walking and getting stronger going to the gym my foot is only thing that. Got damaged bad and the nerves got shot they said gonna take a while to regrow. I went to daughtry show last night just seeing if you wanted to go lol. Definitley we should go out back together sometime soon and pick up where we last left off.

Ugh I wish I could have gone, I would have loved to! And I am so glad you're doing better! Yes, we can definitely start where we left off.

Yeah it was cool sarah mclaughin and couple other performances i never heard of. great we can catch up a bit. You free wensday night? We can go to dnb. and have bite to eat and have some fun.

No reply she seems sincere remembers me n stuff she bailed on me though when i had wreck not gonna marry her. Could i sleep with her if done wright?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Stop the madness. This can't go on.
 

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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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How many red dots does this guy need before he gets ignored or banned? Christ.
 

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thelonewolflegend said:
Im serious what shoudl i ask her bout dawgs?
aren't you a comedian in real life? you could talk about that.
 

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thelonewolflegend said:
Im serious what shoudl i ask her bout dawgs?
I'm trying to help you with the bigger picture here. Human association is built on shared experience, whether it's friendships or relationships.

Go and read those links until you find something that interests you. And ask her about that. You being interested in it and her being interested in it - that's a shared experience. That's where an emotional connection comes from.

For example, you have a hurt leg. If you see a random girl on crutches, you had damn well better go talk to her. It's going to go ten times easier, because you immediately have something to talk about - the shared experience of similar injuries. That's just the ice-breaker and you go from there. Call it a way to get your broken foot in the door.
 
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