"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Girl at work

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Theres this girl at my office, shes a bit fobbish, seems kinda shy, sorter cute. Never paid attention or spoke to her since shes in a different team, although sits nearby.

Lately I've noticed her around more, mainly because:

- Whenever we see each other around the office she seems to make & hold eye contact.
- She's looked down / to the side and smiled to herself on two occasions when we both made eye contact passing.
- Seems to glance at me when she passes my desk or see's me around (coworker noticed this too)

I dont get any of these from the other girls on my floor. Theres some other things too, but they may just be coincidences.

Not sure if it's all in my head but my instincts tell me shes curious / interested.

Problem is It'd be hard to approach her since we have no reason to interact for work. The kitchen area is small, often with others around. The work Skype is an option although not ideal for a first time convo.

Interested to hear others advice. Is this something or nothing?, how to proceed etc

Please dont give the lines about dipping your pen in the company ink etc.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Murk

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Say hi to her when you see her next. Have you spoken to women before? Do you know how to interact with people at work?
 

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If this is your career don't do it. If this is just a temporary job then go for it.
 

DEEZEDBRAH

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If this is your career don't do it. If this is just a temporary job then go for it.
+1

Its just normalized how little game most men have so the first feminine woman in ear shot men will sacrifice their future.
 

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Smile and say Hi. Next time you ser her on a Monday ask her How was your weekend. tease her because is wasn´t as awesome as yours.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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There is definitely something. She likes you and wants to connect. It is up to you to open, she will keep doing that while her interest is high.
I have the exact same situation at work as you, since more than a year.
I haven't made a move because of work issues, but I kept engaging lightly and politely. The signals keep coming, and in the meantime I dug out some info. The girl went in this time through 4 relationships, but she is looking for a better deal always.
Beware.
When the signals became weaker, I only inquired about her with a common friend at work, knowing that it will reach her. Now she is coming to visit my office twice as much and keeps appearing where I am, throwing glances.
All of this while talking marriage with her new boyfriend :)
So beware.
 

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Alright so I've had a few good opportunities where shes been alone at lunch etc, admittedly I've hesitated to approach being at work & all. Feeling regret & tired of wondering so next opportunity I'm just gonna roll the dice & go for it. Still got a bit of the eye contact thing going so we"ll see how it goes & report back.

Too much overthinking creates self doubt.
 
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