"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Girl at work won't leave me alone

MaudGrimes

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Hey, I've read another post on here recently that seems to cover the same issue, though mine is slightly different.

A girl at work - who I have not actively persued in any way - has asked me out three times on facebook. First couple if times a feigned misunderstanding the message and assuming she meant the whole office go out (this doesn't wok by the way, she just asked me out again, telling me i'd misunderstood!). The next time I told her I didn't dates girl at work (rubbish) and that seemed to put her off.

Since then I've been nice to her as I didn't want it to be awkward in the office. Then, this week, she's now sent my ANOTHER message saying how she feels a connection between us blah blah blah and just cause we work together it shouldn't matter. I ignored the message (as she'd asked me to if I wasn't interested) and she then put a status update talking about how she'd had her heart ripped out. She didn't name me but everyone at work knows the score so will put two and two together.

Uually this wouldn't bother me but 1. It's my work life this is affecting and 2. She ain't getting the message.

Any ideas?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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dutchmaster

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as she'd asked me to if I wasn't interested

Should have said you're not interested if you want nothing to do with her.

Just flat out reject her.. If that doesn't work she's a crazy or extremely attracted to you. I have a similar situation. Some 5 I work with is practically in love with me.. Even lies about not having a BF to me. I straight up ignore her and rejected her at least 3 times and she still keeps coming onto me..

Some girls want you more by you rejecting them. Yours doesn't seem all that crazy though. Just desperate
 

jafyk

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Or file for sexual harassment. Isn't that what them ladies do to us?
 

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I'm kind of curious what she looks like. Would this be a problem if she looked like Meagan Fox?
 

MaudGrimes

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Of course, I would treat this whole thing rather differently if she looked like Megan Fox.

As it stands it's more like Michael J Fox. And I'm talking as he is now, not even that Back to the Future era!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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