"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Girl at work won't leave me alone

MaudGrimes

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Hey, I've read another post on here recently that seems to cover the same issue, though mine is slightly different.

A girl at work - who I have not actively persued in any way - has asked me out three times on facebook. First couple if times a feigned misunderstanding the message and assuming she meant the whole office go out (this doesn't wok by the way, she just asked me out again, telling me i'd misunderstood!). The next time I told her I didn't dates girl at work (rubbish) and that seemed to put her off.

Since then I've been nice to her as I didn't want it to be awkward in the office. Then, this week, she's now sent my ANOTHER message saying how she feels a connection between us blah blah blah and just cause we work together it shouldn't matter. I ignored the message (as she'd asked me to if I wasn't interested) and she then put a status update talking about how she'd had her heart ripped out. She didn't name me but everyone at work knows the score so will put two and two together.

Uually this wouldn't bother me but 1. It's my work life this is affecting and 2. She ain't getting the message.

Any ideas?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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dutchmaster

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as she'd asked me to if I wasn't interested

Should have said you're not interested if you want nothing to do with her.

Just flat out reject her.. If that doesn't work she's a crazy or extremely attracted to you. I have a similar situation. Some 5 I work with is practically in love with me.. Even lies about not having a BF to me. I straight up ignore her and rejected her at least 3 times and she still keeps coming onto me..

Some girls want you more by you rejecting them. Yours doesn't seem all that crazy though. Just desperate
 

jafyk

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Or file for sexual harassment. Isn't that what them ladies do to us?
 

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I'm kind of curious what she looks like. Would this be a problem if she looked like Meagan Fox?
 

MaudGrimes

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Of course, I would treat this whole thing rather differently if she looked like Megan Fox.

As it stands it's more like Michael J Fox. And I'm talking as he is now, not even that Back to the Future era!
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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