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Girl was at the gym in my apartment complex. She sees that i have a mask on, and takes her mask off. Noticing her inconsideration, i also took my mask off.

She first approaches me and asks if im using the ten pound weights ( i was nowhere near them) and i say no. Later on i ask her if shes using the bench and she takes her stuff off the bench and moves like 6-7 feet from me (a bit dramatically). What gives?

Did I give off a weak/feminine vibe or something? is this why she acted like this? or am i just overthinking?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

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Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Maybe she expected a reaction on her "move" on you (taking mask off and asking about weights you were nowhere near) except "no" and was just pissed when you told her to get outa your way (remove her stuff from the bench you wanted to use).

From what you are writing here you showed no interest for her at all.
 

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Girl was at the gym in my apartment complex. She sees that i have a mask on, and takes her mask off. Noticing her inconsideration, i also took my mask off.

She first approaches me and asks if im using the ten pound weights ( i was nowhere near them) and i say no. Later on i ask her if shes using the bench and she takes her stuff off the bench and moves like 6-7 feet from me (a bit dramatically). What gives?

Did I give off a weak/feminine vibe or something? is this why she acted like this? or am i just overthinking?
I think its feminine as hell and sheep like behavior to be over concerned with masks. Are you under 50 with no underlying health condition? You have a less than a .01% chance of dying from covid.
 

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This dynamic seems like it's missing small talk.
This is your neighbor for f*cks sake!
No need to be rigid or stiff like that.

If it was a public gym it would be different, but with an apartment complex gym you need to be more friendly because 9 times out of 10 you'll bump into her again.

If were you I wouldn't even ask. I would just work out like I owned the place.
 

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@op. Didn't mean to come off as so harsh on my post on masks.

I would just say to not to read too much into her signals. The masks, distancing is throwing all of the normal mating signals off a bit.

If you're interested, start up a conversation and escalate to seeing if she wants to grab coffee or work out together later in the week.
 

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When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

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The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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