"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Girl at a bus stop

DTR90

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The other day I was walking down to the bus stop after University, and as I was stood waiting to cross over the road this girl comes up and stands right close to me, also waiting to cross over.

Then as I'm just stood at the stop, she randomly asks me how long the bus would take to get into town, even though the stop has clear notices of how long it in fact will take. There was one or two others there, but she asked me instead. She was also asking me how much it would cost, even though she probably knows, although she had missed her train so this was why she was getting the bus instead.

I know this probably means **** all.:eek: But the girl in question was quite good looking, and I dunno, maybe it was slight signs of interest she was showing. And maybe if I see her around campus some more I could get to know her a bit better?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Mr Wright

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Strike whilst the iron is hot. Instead of going home and basically masturbating over the thought of a girl talking to you. Next time be ready to flirt with her, you may never see her again so dont count on it.
 

denverfan110

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I wanna tell you what you wanna hear but I wont. It was probably just cordial. However, even if it wasn't, you didn't capitalize.

Since its a campus, if you see her out at night approach her. You have an easy way to break the ice since you've already interacted with her once.
 

Masculinity

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I know exactly what would have happened. Want to know? It's a mystery. There is no way of knowing what could have happened with this girl. She could have talked to you because she found you attractive and wanted to get your attention. Or she could have been a girl who wanted to know details about the bus after missing her train. This is the biggest burden of not approaching: wondering what could have been. And let me tell you something: it sucks. Learn from this experience and make your move next time. You really have nothing to lose. Would you fear men who are smaller and skinnier than you? No. Then why the heck would you fear a woman?

Don't make me say this again :trouble:
 

Nycbkdude

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Mr Wright said:
Strike whilst the iron is hot. Instead of going home and basically masturbating over the thought of a girl talking to you. Next time be ready to flirt with her, you may never see her again so dont count on it.
thats exactly right, you introduce yourself get her name, ask her for her major and what she likes to do on the weekends and then suggest to hang out....
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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