Enjoy it while it still lasts, and by that I mean fvck her as much as you can because after the sex that's when the real sh!t starts. You might think you know her based on the these dates you've had but after sex woman usually start opening up more and that's the time you'll see the red flags. You'll start hearing her say stuff that will leave you thinking wtf??....all I'm saying is she might be the real thing or you just a potential rebound after she dumps her current boyfriend.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Girl asks ME out and shows extremely high IL, thoughts?
- Thread starter spiegel549
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
EyeBRollin
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Treat her the same as any other chick. See her once per week, after you call her to set up a date. If she blows up your phone, make the date right then and there.
If she's crazy, she won't be able to wait a day or two before blowing up your phone. She'll show her ass.
Also, have sex with her in the next date or two.
If she's crazy, she won't be able to wait a day or two before blowing up your phone. She'll show her ass.
Also, have sex with her in the next date or two.
spiegel549
Senior Don Juan
What a wide range of answers, thank you for the response.
Update from my last post and what I have learned about her:
The girl is 22yrs old. Hard working, nerdy/quirky, definitely a unique chick. So far I have seen her 3 times and she has blown me away with how down to earth she is. She brought me to a Jazz show over the weekend (paid for the show and drinks) because I bought her dinner the other night. Cool, I wasn't going to argue. We then went to the beach and she made this incredible home made lunch with fresh fruit, dessert, the whole nine. It was really good, I was impressed.
Some of the posts no offense are a bit to the extreme on being jaded. Assuming she is some crazy Cluster B because she is showing high IL I don't feel is a good mindset to have. Now with that said, it is still early to say.
She has been consistently down to earth, thoughtful, fun, generous, and very open about family and past relationships. Couldn't really ask for anything more just yet.
I have been setting the pace for this because I am spinning other plates at the time. I will keep you all posted. I am so far intrigued to see where this all goes.
Update from my last post and what I have learned about her:
The girl is 22yrs old. Hard working, nerdy/quirky, definitely a unique chick. So far I have seen her 3 times and she has blown me away with how down to earth she is. She brought me to a Jazz show over the weekend (paid for the show and drinks) because I bought her dinner the other night. Cool, I wasn't going to argue. We then went to the beach and she made this incredible home made lunch with fresh fruit, dessert, the whole nine. It was really good, I was impressed.
Some of the posts no offense are a bit to the extreme on being jaded. Assuming she is some crazy Cluster B because she is showing high IL I don't feel is a good mindset to have. Now with that said, it is still early to say.
She has been consistently down to earth, thoughtful, fun, generous, and very open about family and past relationships. Couldn't really ask for anything more just yet.
I have been setting the pace for this because I am spinning other plates at the time. I will keep you all posted. I am so far intrigued to see where this all goes.
Just enjoy your time together and go with the flow would be my advice. Also i think you did well by letting her pay. The more she invests in you, the better.
Floydispink01
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Good for you OP. I would treat this girl with caution however if you are using words like 'incredible', 'blown me away' and 'i am so far intrigued' regarding a chlck. Try not to set your expectations too high but as the above poster said - go with the flow.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Bingo-Player
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im sorry but sex is the the only true indicator of interest when it comes to women
from what i can tell this one is yet to let you sample her goods
so therefore you need to keep your composure because women aint dull and if she wanted you that much she would want to claim your seed as quickly as possible
from what i can tell this one is yet to let you sample her goods
so therefore you need to keep your composure because women aint dull and if she wanted you that much she would want to claim your seed as quickly as possible