"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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happyman2012

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been meeting a girl for about 2 months now...sleeping together going out for drinks, been for a few meals...ended up meeting her mum and grandma by accident aswell! But anyways!

She has text me today saying she is confused about me and her and asked if I am just classing it as fun?
i replied with "I dont know,what do you class it as."
She said "well i wouldnt exactly say we are friends, but I dont know, Im confused."
So my reply was "i dont like to rush anything at all, I like to have fun and a good time and see what happens, do you get me?" she said she did get me!
Wanting opinions, did I handle this the right way? I think I did because atm I am unsure if i want to be in a relationship, but she does seem nice and I enjoy being with her.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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TheWolfMan

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It seems to me that she is hinting that she wants
you to ask her to be in a relationship, If you want to be in one with her go for it but it sounds like you don't so you told her the truth. You did right by telling her the truth but you might ruin your chance to have a relationship with her in the future if you wait too long on the whole thing, it's really up to you where to go from here.
 

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it sounds like you are the ball handler of this relationship, and i just want to add that whatever you say really should reflect what you want, which you have done. I understand the ambiguousness and all though
 

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So the good: she is hooked on you. You can keep her as a side piece as you fvck other chicks.

The semi-bad: she has an expiration date. If you keep this going, she may give you an ultimatum. Notice I said semi-bad. This is because you can ignore her and then randomly fvck her when you want to "get back together".
 
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Tell her that you aren't looking for anything serious right now and would like to get together some more to get to know her better.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Masculinity

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Uncharted said:
So the good: she is hooked on you. You can keep her as a side piece as you fvck other chicks.

The semi-bad: she has an expiration date. If you keep this going, she may give you an ultimatum. Notice I said semi-bad. This is because you can ignore her and then randomly fvck her when you want to "get back together".
I second this ^
 
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