"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Girl approached me again after no contact, should I just play it cool?

beefynips

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Back story:
Met a girl that works and exercises at my local gym, so I see her a few times a week. She was really into me at first, I wasn't that much. Eventually I started talking to her more and she came up to me and wanted to train boxing with me. She knows I train at a boxing gym too and sometimes I like hitting the bags at the regular gym. So everything is fine, we're both flirty and she wants to train with me again the next day so we did. She got my number then things were kind of hot and cold with us for a while, but she did ask to go to my wrestling tournament in a month. Things kind of died down, I text her the weekend before we were supposed to go and she ignored it. She approached me the week of, but I didn't really want to carry on a conversation because I was kind of tired of her games and I had other things to worry about. I kind of suspected she lost interest or was with another guy, and I also made some mistakes that I know now not to make again.

Anyways about 4 weeks go by where I just go to the gym and do my workout without talking to her. She approaches me the day before Thanksgiving asking how I am and a few other things. She asks if I'm going to come in tomorrow I told her it's the holiday but she still has to work there part of the day. So, she just wishes me a happy thanksgiving and that's it.

I'll probably see her next week at the gym. I do still like this girl and I read a lot about the mistakes I made. Just want some advice on my situation.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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mikey2012

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Play it cool? But you're not. Ask her out an try to fvck her. If she refuses then you can stop wasting time posting nonsense here and move on.
 

idoloveromance

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Just play it cool and if you really like her, pursue her. if she drifts away, then don't even bother. may she's just "friendzoning" you. maybe she just wants companion.
 

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I finally asked a friend that knows her well. Turns out she has had a boyfriend for sometime. Kind of explains all the hot/cold behavior, but she was the one that came on to me so I didn't think she had one. Yesterday she was walking by and stopped in front of me playing on her phone, I was doing something so we just waved. Today I just went about my workout as usual, she used a machine right next me facing me from the side but I didn't notice.

I don't know if she's one of those monkey branch girls that hops to a new guy when she knows she has him locked in. I never was really forward with her or showed my true feelings. I'd just flirt and banter back, never really texted much. Idk if I should make an effort with her anyway, maybe invite her to box again or just forget about her.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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old_skoolr

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How do you feel about sleeping with a girl with a bf? If your morally against it then let it go and go back to ignoring with a friendly hi here and there.

If your not, ask her out and she what she says, she doesnt know you know she has a bf and shes never mentioned it. If she rejects you and says she a bf, then move on.
 

beefynips

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hmmm I think I will ask her out just to make my intentions clear, if she pulls the bf card out I'll just say something along the lines of "if things don't work out give me a call" and date other girls.

She's always receptive to me in person so I'll try to bump into her tomorrow if I see her or early next week.
 
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