Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Well, you can get yourself un-attached or she'll do it for you. The red light is flashing and the siren is wailing partner.All her ex will have to do is show her some interest and she'll go back to him. If she was really over him the topic of discussion wouldn't even come up, she wouldn't even think about it or show any signs. Better to step up and get this taken care of now then get even more attached and get kicked in the crotch.Originally posted by ForgottenandMistaken
I've dated this girl for a while and have gotten quite attached. A few dates ago, she started showing signs of still being emotionally connected with her ex. I realized this as a red light and tried to break connections with her to save myself the heartache. However, I've found myself to have gotten quite attached. Can I get some help on recovery?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I am currently doing the same with one of the girls I am dating. Both my previous serious girlfriends both loved their exs and like I said, I am now the ex they are still attatched too. It might work out, it might not, the trick is to honestly detatch yourself from her, get your head around the fact that she is just some fun for now and you can see how things go with her. Make sure you keep dating and meeting other woman also, until she gives YOU the talk about "what are we". Dont bring it up with her. Keep me informed and good luck! Play the game!Originally posted by ForgottenandMistaken
thanks clooney, i plan on doing this, or something like this