You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Well, you can get yourself un-attached or she'll do it for you. The red light is flashing and the siren is wailing partner.All her ex will have to do is show her some interest and she'll go back to him. If she was really over him the topic of discussion wouldn't even come up, she wouldn't even think about it or show any signs. Better to step up and get this taken care of now then get even more attached and get kicked in the crotch.Originally posted by ForgottenandMistaken
I've dated this girl for a while and have gotten quite attached. A few dates ago, she started showing signs of still being emotionally connected with her ex. I realized this as a red light and tried to break connections with her to save myself the heartache. However, I've found myself to have gotten quite attached. Can I get some help on recovery?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I am currently doing the same with one of the girls I am dating. Both my previous serious girlfriends both loved their exs and like I said, I am now the ex they are still attatched too. It might work out, it might not, the trick is to honestly detatch yourself from her, get your head around the fact that she is just some fun for now and you can see how things go with her. Make sure you keep dating and meeting other woman also, until she gives YOU the talk about "what are we". Dont bring it up with her. Keep me informed and good luck! Play the game!Originally posted by ForgottenandMistaken
thanks clooney, i plan on doing this, or something like this