"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Gift for the Girlfriend

ChapStick

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So I've been going out with my girlfriend for over a year, and I really never bought anything for her except a necklace for her birthday and a teddy bear for valentines day. She has bought me candy, electronics, clothes, expensive hair and skin products (she's a cosmetologist), etc... I was just sitting in my room thinking about how much she has done for me, and how little I do for her.

The problem is... I'm a cheap ass, and I hate spending money. Any ideas of anything to get the girlfriend that she would think is sweet for under $20? lol She has had a stressful week and I've been hanging out with my friends all the time and been blowing her off, and I just want her to see that even though I spend time with my friends, that she still means something to me.

Btw, thank all you guys for all your help over the years. I honestly have become very confident and comfortable with myself. I see confidence in this game as not thinking you can get with any woman out there, but I see confidence as even if you get turned down, you won't care because you know who you are, and it sucks for her that she can't see how amazing you are =)
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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bukowski_merit

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ChapStick said:
She has had a stressful week and I've been hanging out with my friends all the time and been blowing her off, and I just want her to see that even though I spend time with my friends, that she still means something to me.
A bottle of wine (if you're legal - most women like reisling in the summer time)...
Some massage oils (or baby oil) to give her a massage...
and one hell of a passionate night...

beats the sh!t out of a $20 necklace...

if you treat her that bad - she probably has abandonment fears... a night like this will work wonders on her emotions...
 

Joe Stud

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go to walmart, jewelry counter. look in the CLEARANCE window (red tags). you can get her a real gold bracelet for $50-75. she will friggin glow at that. you will get great dividends, and it reminds her of you for years to cume
 

romangod

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A nice greeting card and a cute stuffed animal.



Cheers!
 

horaholic

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Its more about the effort you put in, than the money you spend. You can surprise her with a bed full of rose petals, and full body massages, (if you dont consider that AFC, lol) and whatever else you can imagine. She will remember that for the rest of her life. Give her an EXPERIENCE, not a gift. DO something, dont buy something.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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