"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Gift for the Girlfriend

ChapStick

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So I've been going out with my girlfriend for over a year, and I really never bought anything for her except a necklace for her birthday and a teddy bear for valentines day. She has bought me candy, electronics, clothes, expensive hair and skin products (she's a cosmetologist), etc... I was just sitting in my room thinking about how much she has done for me, and how little I do for her.

The problem is... I'm a cheap ass, and I hate spending money. Any ideas of anything to get the girlfriend that she would think is sweet for under $20? lol She has had a stressful week and I've been hanging out with my friends all the time and been blowing her off, and I just want her to see that even though I spend time with my friends, that she still means something to me.

Btw, thank all you guys for all your help over the years. I honestly have become very confident and comfortable with myself. I see confidence in this game as not thinking you can get with any woman out there, but I see confidence as even if you get turned down, you won't care because you know who you are, and it sucks for her that she can't see how amazing you are =)
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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bukowski_merit

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ChapStick said:
She has had a stressful week and I've been hanging out with my friends all the time and been blowing her off, and I just want her to see that even though I spend time with my friends, that she still means something to me.
A bottle of wine (if you're legal - most women like reisling in the summer time)...
Some massage oils (or baby oil) to give her a massage...
and one hell of a passionate night...

beats the sh!t out of a $20 necklace...

if you treat her that bad - she probably has abandonment fears... a night like this will work wonders on her emotions...
 

Joe Stud

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go to walmart, jewelry counter. look in the CLEARANCE window (red tags). you can get her a real gold bracelet for $50-75. she will friggin glow at that. you will get great dividends, and it reminds her of you for years to cume
 

romangod

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A nice greeting card and a cute stuffed animal.



Cheers!
 

horaholic

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Its more about the effort you put in, than the money you spend. You can surprise her with a bed full of rose petals, and full body massages, (if you dont consider that AFC, lol) and whatever else you can imagine. She will remember that for the rest of her life. Give her an EXPERIENCE, not a gift. DO something, dont buy something.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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