Gf wants to hang out 24/7

[captain55]

I’ve met a pretty solid chick. She’s submissive and does everything for me. The issue is she wants to see me 24:7. I’m finding myself getting annoyed.

For example today I’ve been working 6am to 3pm and I get a text message saying “busy huh? You haven’t asked me how my day is “

I like the girl and don’t wanna sound like an ******* but how do I tell her do give me space without hurting her causing more drama ?

 

[In2theGame]

I’ve met a pretty solid chick. She’s submissive and does everything for me. The issue is she wants to see me 24:7. I’m finding myself getting annoyed.

For example today I’ve been working 6am to 3pm and I get a text message saying “busy huh? You haven’t asked me how my day is “

I like the girl and don’t wanna sound like an ******* but how do I tell her do give me space without hurting her causing more drama ?

Just be straight up with her "Hey Babe, Sorry I've been working all day, Everything going good today?" She'll probably tell you about ABC and XYZ, then from there say something like "I'm gonna go take care of a few things for now but I'll be all over you when I see you" or some variation of that. What she's doing, Like most Women, she's just looking for your attention and to know you're thinking about her and wanting to see her etc.

 

[jaymbrs]

Just gotta call her out on it. Ironically, communication is key here. Gotta let her know early on that that's not something you're going to do for her all the time and to respect the fact you have other things in your life that you have to tend to. Don't be a jerk about it either that way you don't trigger an overemotional response from her. Either she accepts it, or she doesn't and you'll know what to do at that point.

 

[stovepipe]

Got yourself some red flags there bud. I'm not saying she is a Cluster B. Her wanting to see you 24/7 is a tactic they use in the beginning. To isolate you so you become dependent on her, she gets all the attention and validation she needs and you become afraid to speak your mind (hence why you're here posting). Her being submissive and giving you what you want sexually is to trap you.

Test her: tell her you're very busy with work and don't have the time to constantly text/talk. If she starts to make you feel bad for being honest, then I would proceed with caution. Heck I can already tell this chick is trouble.

 

[derby1]

the way she said that to you if thats how shes put it, "busy huh?"............god these bicthes have serious solipsism

you just wait tll 3 months into a LTR this aint nothing

 

[Mazer]

I’ve met a pretty solid chick. She’s submissive and does everything for me. The issue is she wants to see me 24:7. I’m finding myself getting annoyed.

For example today I’ve been working 6am to 3pm and I get a text message saying “busy huh? You haven’t asked me how my day is “

I like the girl and don’t wanna sound like an ******* but how do I tell her do give me space without hurting her causing more drama ?

That’s the problem with submissive women-l have yet to meet a woman who is completely submissive without being needy asf. Just hit her up and set up a date later in the week but don’t be afraid to say no to her. Chicks like this will wait if she thinks you’re a catch. You set the pace.

 

[captain55]

That’s the problem with submissive women-l have yet to meet a woman who is completely submissive without being needy asf. Just hit her up and set up a date later in the week but don’t be afraid to say no to her. Chicks like this will wait if she thinks you’re a catch. You set the pace.

Lol I wish. She wants to spend every night at my house and constantly begs me to come over. Literally every day. When I tell her I need space or want to see friends she throws a fit

 

[ubercat]

I agree wit da Boyz But anyway just for another option

Put her to work. Plan a weekend away say your to busy with work and make her plan it all. You're paying so you're still the boss and make her give you updates.

 

[Roober]

If a woman is really into you, this is bound to happen. It is practically guaranteed after a period of time. They will always want to see you and be with you, usually within reason. I've been with my girl about 2 and a half years and I still get it in various forms.

My best advice? Ignore it as it's nothing more than ******** for "I want to see him, but he's busy. Let's see if he will make time for me." Sometimes too much distance can be bad, but you can easily assess that by her actions.

 

[lamath]

This is like your 10th thread about her. She is garbage.

Thats what was told.on previous thread indeed.

Problem with women like this if you stay too long you end up playing house and then its harder to leave.


She is not LTR material continue with her at yourown risk. She will poison your life on the long run

 

[lamath]

For a normal guy, no reason to make a thread on a healthy woman. Retroactively, only a fvckt up woman would get me to make a thread, otherwise it barely registers in my consciousness when I hook up lol

I understand why he does, for some ppl its harder to know whats normal and whats not.
However that women we told him she was no good, but he does not want to next her make a new thread about her instead.

I doubt myself on certain aspect too because im still not the most experienced guy, however i can see most of the obvious red flag of a bad LTR candidate.

Staying with her for too long could make his life a living hell, imagine how she will be after a few year if he fall into the trap of playing house.

 

[lamath]

This is his third gf he has done this with. High in neuroticism.

Ahhhh
I was sure it was the same gf as a few week ago.

Man need to choose women a bit more wisely.

 

[ubercat]

Well keep helping the bros. Soulforge used to be a magnet for fuct up chicks. But he seems to have his sh1t together now. everybody needs to hear the message 7 times maybe for some guys it's 70.

 

[lamath]

It is the same one. 10 threads whining about her trying to mask low self esteem that authorized him to fall for an abusive cvnt.

However, having been here 10 years, he does this all the time lol.

I'm not even judging, I'm not self-righteous, I break rules and fvck up a LOT.

We all **** up man, not always easy to know best course of action. Especially when we are blinded by the light.

However some stuff is obvious.

 

[Young OG]

Lol I wish. She wants to spend every night at my house and constantly begs me to come over. Literally every day. When I tell her I need space or want to see friends she throws a fit

I had a gf like this when I was 18. She was my first real gf. Somehow I wasted 2.5 yrs with her before I had enough. I got sick of not being able to ever hangout with my friends on my own. I ended up dumping her. This will not end well for you. Either put her in her place or dump her.

 

[lamath]

I had a gf like this when I was 18. She was my first real gf. Somehow I wasted 2.5 yrs with before i had enough. I got sick of not being able to ever hangout with my friends on my own. I ended up dumping her. This will not end well for you. Either put her in her place or dump her.

Could have been way worst.
Hopefully he will listen but i think he needs to get burn bad before he does. Experience is the best teacher.

 

[captain55]

i used to think that women that are 8 pluses were going to worship the ground i walked on, cook for me, clean for me, and still let me go out with my friends and game other chicks but then I woke up.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

i used to think that women that are 8 pluses were going to worship the ground i walked on, cook for me, clean for me, and still let me go out with my friends and game other chicks but then I woke up.

They want you to do that for them. Get the well built super supportive 7.

 

[Hal9000]

She may be the type who assumes you're banging someone else any time you go more than an hour without texting her. I can assure you it only gets worse as time goes by.

 

[captain55]

Been loyal so far