"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Hey guys, has none of you had that situation before? When I'm with my girl for the weekend, for example, we'd have sex twice in the evening, and then again in the morning. Then she'd fix us some breakfast but afterwards she immediately wants sex again! Every bloody time, all the time!

I'm serious, after I bust a nut I'm just not horny anymore. I can still get it up, I can deliver a good performance, but I don't want to all the time. She'd just cling to me, kiss me nonstop (which is actually annoying if you're not horny) and wait for me to initiate sex.

Maybe I have a low sex drive, but sex is effort on my part. In fact it's a chore to do it "properly" more than once. Once the horniness is gone I'm just doing it for her. The situation annoys me, but I fear she'd think something's wrong if I tell her I want less sex.

Haha, I sound like a typical woman now do I. Anyway how does the Don Juan solve the dilemma?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Also, I want to stop associating sex with work, that's not sexy and sounds very unhealthy in the long run.
 

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Use your fingers till she can't handle anymore orgasms.

Seriously wish I had this problem right now haha
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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She don't want the fingers or a quickie, she wants the real deal, and I don't want to spend another 20 minutes. She's like a cat, way too hungry for affection.

I guess it's just a matter of communication, I'll do whatever I'd rather do at the time or leave. Alternatively I'll try to make her play a more active part.
 

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Baby, why you on the computer tuping on the internets? Get back to bed, I'm horny, I wanna sex again!!!!
OMG it's you!? How did you find me?

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OK if you make me a sandwich
 

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I have the exact same 'problem' with the girl I am currently seing. She is horny all the damn time, and like in your case, she initiates sex by kising me a lot eventhough I am not horny bescause I had an orgams ten minutes ago, so it is annoying.

What can you do? I dont know lol.

As you said, I usually give her more than once orgasms eventhough I cvmmed before and I dont feel like having sex again...but other times I just give her only one orgasm and tell her I had enough and call it a day.
You are not obligated to perform so much everytime you know?
 

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Alternatively I'll try to make her play a more active part.
Are you saying she's like a starfish in bed or you're the only one doing the physical activity?
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Are you saying she's like a starfish in bed or you're the only one doing the physical activity?
She's not a dead fish, but I usually dominate her and I like it this way. I guess this has kind of set the standard for us. Sometimes I move her on top, but it doesn't turn me on very much.
Anyway I figure - if I have the time to spare, then why not have sex some more. Maybe the solution is as simple as to instruct her to get better at teasing & foreplay... she's gotta seduce me a bit more ;)
 

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She's not a dead fish, but I usually dominate her and I like it this way (when I'm horny). I guess this has kind of set the standard which she expects. Sometimes I move her on top, but it doesn't turn me on very much.
Anyway I figure - if I have the time to spare, then why not have sex. Maybe the solution is as simple as to instruct her to get better at teasing & foreplay... she's gotta seduce me a bit more ;)
Yes, get her on more of a 50/50 for the entire process. Let her work at seduction.
 

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Dont orgasm every time you have sex. Only do it when you are sure it will be the last sex session of the day with her. This way your desire and hardness will get bigger and bigger
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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She don't want the fingers or a quickie, she wants the real deal, and I don't want to spend another 20 minutes. She's like a cat, way too hungry for affection.

I guess it's just a matter of communication, I'll do whatever I'd rather do at the time or leave. Alternatively I'll try to make her play a more active part.
she needs to get to the gym and burn off all this excess energy
 

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Heres a tip, DONT BUST EVERYTIME


I smash my chick for 20 min on my lunchbreak just for fun and some cardio and pleasure. She gets off, I get some good feels and then eat and back to work taking care of business. Then that night Ill be horny AF and rdy to smash...so we will bang and at that point ill bust an passout. Everyones happy. The next day Ill be ready...first sesh I wont bust nuts just bang her out. Ill finally bust that night. Its also sweet cuz you blow huge and bishes love it.


Edit- Doing this does not cause blue balls. IDK why but it just doesnt. Like if you are making out with a chick and are ready to bang and get hard, and you cant..then you get blue balls...but the act of having sex somehow soothes chit down there..idk.
 

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Agreed with other guys. Don't busy a nut every time. I had a girl over that I laid the first time And I swear she could have gone all friggin night... I only bust a nut once over the course of 3 hours... Every time we stopped, she was on me within 5 minutes again...
 

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Maybe we should open a new thread called no-bust, to encourage the good practice of not busting nuts during sex ;)
 

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Is nice, yes???

Maybe gensing?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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