I have been seeing this gal since the beginning of the year, and she is funny, intelligent and easily an HB9-10. She is also wealthy and she has celiberty/socialite status. Sounds perfect doesn't it? I can't believe my luck that I got with her but am still having doubts. We have been seeing each other since the beginning of the year and she is already talking about marriage. I have always been a little insecure that she is this super successful woman. I insist on doing some activities on my dime even though I cannot compete with what she can afford, like taking her camping or some other local adventure, which she likes, compared to her taking me to her place in New York for the weekend out(we live on the West Coast) or one of the many social balls she gets invited to in places like Monaco, or whatever. I cannot compete with that.
If I move in with her, it will be to her place, since all I have is a crappy apartment. I basically spend most of the week with her already anyway, and I de facto already live at her place. If we get married I will live at her place. The problem is, it is her place, with her rules. She is not a tyrant or anything like that, not so far anyway, but I still feel like a guest there, and that I have to carry myself like a guest in her place. She is not really controlling or anything, it is just that once I am on her turf I feel I will give up any power or control I have in my life. I am used to doing whatever I want to do, when I want, how I want, like not make my bed if I don't feel like it.
Fortunately she has hired help for cleaning and gardening, but there are the daily things, like making the bed religiously, taking shoes off in her house, and just her day to day routine of how she manages her house. What if I said something was silly and refused to cooperate? I feel I would have to conform my life to hers if I shacked up or got married to her. I also feel sometimes self conscious when I meet these elite friends of hers, like I don't belong there.
I do love her and she has been great so far(a little sensitive at times but artistic people usually are). However, I want to feel like an equal partner in this relationship and that is difficult considering her status and financial position relative to mine. With her help I can probably really successful in what I want to do eventually also, but it bothers me a little bit that I cannot maintain the head of household status that I as a man should. So far I think I have done everything right but all this is still in the back of my mind. Am I being silly? What does she expect from me as a partner? Has anyone else had the experience of being in a LTR with a woman of greater wealth, and social status than themselves, and who is not ugly?
If I move in with her, it will be to her place, since all I have is a crappy apartment. I basically spend most of the week with her already anyway, and I de facto already live at her place. If we get married I will live at her place. The problem is, it is her place, with her rules. She is not a tyrant or anything like that, not so far anyway, but I still feel like a guest there, and that I have to carry myself like a guest in her place. She is not really controlling or anything, it is just that once I am on her turf I feel I will give up any power or control I have in my life. I am used to doing whatever I want to do, when I want, how I want, like not make my bed if I don't feel like it.
Fortunately she has hired help for cleaning and gardening, but there are the daily things, like making the bed religiously, taking shoes off in her house, and just her day to day routine of how she manages her house. What if I said something was silly and refused to cooperate? I feel I would have to conform my life to hers if I shacked up or got married to her. I also feel sometimes self conscious when I meet these elite friends of hers, like I don't belong there.
I do love her and she has been great so far(a little sensitive at times but artistic people usually are). However, I want to feel like an equal partner in this relationship and that is difficult considering her status and financial position relative to mine. With her help I can probably really successful in what I want to do eventually also, but it bothers me a little bit that I cannot maintain the head of household status that I as a man should. So far I think I have done everything right but all this is still in the back of my mind. Am I being silly? What does she expect from me as a partner? Has anyone else had the experience of being in a LTR with a woman of greater wealth, and social status than themselves, and who is not ugly?
