"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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GF taking a term abroad - can i sleep with other women?

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So, I am in a LTR of over 1.5 years. My gf and I typically do the long distance thing, were no stranger to it, as she goes to school 100 miles away from the city we both live in.

She is in europe taking a term abroad. I am pretty confident she is not cheating on me, as I like to think I know her... I am also pretty confident about it, because the frequency at which she tries to call me has not changed from day 1 (its been about 3 weeks so far, with 9 weeks left). Ive decided the frequency at which she calls me is a good indication shes not cheating.

Now onto me, since she is over in another country, am I allowed to go attempt to get other girls? Im going crazy without sex, and would like to go find a girl so that I can have sex, but I have abstained so far.

Any input on my plight would be helpfull.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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jack off.

keep jacking off dude, dont go low that low and cheat. 1.5 years is alot and i give you props for that,
 

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If your libido is more important that a 1.5 year relationship, break up and sarge to your heart's content.
 

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Okay, so.. you've been with her a year and a half. You've been seperated before. You're pretty sure she's not cheating on you. She's not gone away because she wants to be away from you, she's doing something as part of her college education. You've already lasted 3 weeks. Another 3 weeks and that'll be half the time gone.

Quite frankly, if you do cheat on her under these circumstances, you will be an arsehole.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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well thanks for the advice, ill be sure to keep my **** in my pants.

and yes, palmela handerson has become my best friend...
 

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Hey man I'm in the same situation. GF gone till December. Calls me every day, sends postcards, etc, etc. We've been dating for about a year.

Anyway, I know how you feel. I'm in the position to go out and f*ck but feel bad about doing that to my gf.
 

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TenPinSpare said:
well thanks for the advice, ill be sure to keep my **** in my pants.

and yes, palmela handerson has become my best friend...
the sex will be much better when you get back, too. as well as having a clear conscience. :)
 

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unless you've had the discussion about seeing other people, you better just lay low, brother. you'll feel a sack of crap if you cheat..and once it happens there won't be just a single event either. you'll be rationalizing your ass off by doing it over and over again..
 

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You can cheat on her as long as you give her permission to take 3 miles of wang from swarthy European men.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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WORKEROUTER said:
Hey man I'm in the same situation. GF gone till December. Calls me every day, sends postcards, etc, etc. We've been dating for about a year.

Anyway, I know how you feel. I'm in the position to go out and f*ck but feel bad about doing that to my gf.
Yeah, the several daily calls and postcards, were in the same boat...

thanks for all the positive reinforcement guys.

the thin black duke said:
unless you've had the discussion about seeing other people, you better just lay low, brother. you'll feel a sack of crap if you cheat..and once it happens there won't be just a single event either. you'll be rationalizing your ass off by doing it over and over again..
yeah, that was the thought I had. Once I do it one time, it then becomes OK for me to do it again and again and again and again...
 

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I don't want to sound like the bad guy here, but if she DOES NOT know about it, and you're able to rid yourself of the whole moral aspect (maybe read some nietze), is there an issue?

And if you don't see yourself MARRYING this girl, does that even make it LESS of an issue?
 
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