"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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GF taking a term abroad - can i sleep with other women?

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So, I am in a LTR of over 1.5 years. My gf and I typically do the long distance thing, were no stranger to it, as she goes to school 100 miles away from the city we both live in.

She is in europe taking a term abroad. I am pretty confident she is not cheating on me, as I like to think I know her... I am also pretty confident about it, because the frequency at which she tries to call me has not changed from day 1 (its been about 3 weeks so far, with 9 weeks left). Ive decided the frequency at which she calls me is a good indication shes not cheating.

Now onto me, since she is over in another country, am I allowed to go attempt to get other girls? Im going crazy without sex, and would like to go find a girl so that I can have sex, but I have abstained so far.

Any input on my plight would be helpfull.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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jack off.

keep jacking off dude, dont go low that low and cheat. 1.5 years is alot and i give you props for that,
 

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If your libido is more important that a 1.5 year relationship, break up and sarge to your heart's content.
 

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Okay, so.. you've been with her a year and a half. You've been seperated before. You're pretty sure she's not cheating on you. She's not gone away because she wants to be away from you, she's doing something as part of her college education. You've already lasted 3 weeks. Another 3 weeks and that'll be half the time gone.

Quite frankly, if you do cheat on her under these circumstances, you will be an arsehole.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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well thanks for the advice, ill be sure to keep my **** in my pants.

and yes, palmela handerson has become my best friend...
 

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Hey man I'm in the same situation. GF gone till December. Calls me every day, sends postcards, etc, etc. We've been dating for about a year.

Anyway, I know how you feel. I'm in the position to go out and f*ck but feel bad about doing that to my gf.
 

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TenPinSpare said:
well thanks for the advice, ill be sure to keep my **** in my pants.

and yes, palmela handerson has become my best friend...
the sex will be much better when you get back, too. as well as having a clear conscience. :)
 

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unless you've had the discussion about seeing other people, you better just lay low, brother. you'll feel a sack of crap if you cheat..and once it happens there won't be just a single event either. you'll be rationalizing your ass off by doing it over and over again..
 

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You can cheat on her as long as you give her permission to take 3 miles of wang from swarthy European men.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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WORKEROUTER said:
Hey man I'm in the same situation. GF gone till December. Calls me every day, sends postcards, etc, etc. We've been dating for about a year.

Anyway, I know how you feel. I'm in the position to go out and f*ck but feel bad about doing that to my gf.
Yeah, the several daily calls and postcards, were in the same boat...

thanks for all the positive reinforcement guys.

the thin black duke said:
unless you've had the discussion about seeing other people, you better just lay low, brother. you'll feel a sack of crap if you cheat..and once it happens there won't be just a single event either. you'll be rationalizing your ass off by doing it over and over again..
yeah, that was the thought I had. Once I do it one time, it then becomes OK for me to do it again and again and again and again...
 

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I don't want to sound like the bad guy here, but if she DOES NOT know about it, and you're able to rid yourself of the whole moral aspect (maybe read some nietze), is there an issue?

And if you don't see yourself MARRYING this girl, does that even make it LESS of an issue?
 
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