"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
GF Sometimes Take a Long Time to Reply My SMS
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
The advantage of texting is that you could do it while doing something useful, while calling uses all of your attention. And with SMS, we could talk about silly things that's not worth talking over the phone.ZenGodMod said:
Yet worth being upset about when she doesn't respond right away?Fela Kuti said:
She probably recognizes that it's a silly text that doesn't need to be answered right away. You getting upset over this is extremely AFC.
Just let it go, text her less.
sukatempik
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She might be busy, has life or whatever. So what if she doesn't reply back in an hour? Can you do other activities at all? Or do you just sit there for an hour staring at your cellphone?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
"beggers can't be choosers".Alphamale1821 said:
LOL
I don't know why every time someone doesn't want to face criticism will make up some random excuse for their faults.Fela Kuti said:
You don't have OCD!
You just discovered you should stop acting AFC and stop making excuses. You have should contracted "discovery" disorder!
And act open it, rather then living in denial.
dannyegg4575
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she replies late when she has low interest levels... that's all... just stay cool man... and don't ask her why she replies late... jeez...
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Fela Kuti said:
What did she say and all of a sudden you don't give a damn?? That's quite a transformation.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
My Name is Nobody
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Fela Kuti said:
What did she say?
If it's important, call her.
If you're just shooting the sh*t or something else that is useless, than don't have these high expectations that she'll shoot the sh*t back to you.
Another thought, maybe she has a life and she's a little to busy living it. I couldn't imagine doing something fun and having to stop every 5 minutes to answer a text message.
DonGorgon
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Any way she should be texting you and you should be taking your time to get beck ...
Remember always do everything alittle less than she does...
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
DonGorgon
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^^^People love saying that line... at thats why there are so many lonely , depressed divorced, "busy" people...LOLShyyhs said: