"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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GF Sometimes Take a Long Time to Reply My SMS

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3countriesPlan said:
what is your country?
Don't think too much about slow response speed.
You don't have to respond to her texts either if you are busy.
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Indonesia.

I only started to think too much about her texts since we're exclusive. When we're still dating, I couldn't care less if she replied the next day. Strange..
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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ZenGodMod said:
I pity you. Do some maths here. for every 6 sms you send you probably could have made a one minute call. Save the 6 (worthless sms's anyway), call her which is far better then some text on a display screen.
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The advantage of texting is that you could do it while doing something useful, while calling uses all of your attention. And with SMS, we could talk about silly things that's not worth talking over the phone.
 
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Fela Kuti said:
And with SMS, we could talk about silly things that's not worth talking over the phone.
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Yet worth being upset about when she doesn't respond right away?
She probably recognizes that it's a silly text that doesn't need to be answered right away. You getting upset over this is extremely AFC.

Just let it go, text her less.
 
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The fact that you get impatient about a girl not replying promptly tells a lot about your insecurity and how much you value her over yourself. I mean, she's being 'disrespectful'? If you get emotionally hurt because she 'disrespects' you she might as well keep pushing that 'disrespectful' button to gain control in your relationship. You'll be so easy to manipulate like a little toy.

She might be busy, has life or whatever. So what if she doesn't reply back in an hour? Can you do other activities at all? Or do you just sit there for an hour staring at your cellphone?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Alphamale1821 said:
*sigh* for every 40 bad post thier is 1-2 good post.
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"beggers can't be choosers".
LOL :p

Fela Kuti said:
I think I have OCD.
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I don't know why every time someone doesn't want to face criticism will make up some random excuse for their faults.

You don't have OCD!

You just discovered you should stop acting AFC and stop making excuses. You have should contracted "discovery" disorder!

And act open it, rather then living in denial.
 
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Just a few minutes ago, my GF replied late again. And I didn't give a damn! I think I have contracted "discovery" disorder!
 
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if she replies late, who gives a f*ck? you're acting needy...
she replies late when she has low interest levels... that's all... just stay cool man... and don't ask her why she replies late... jeez...
 
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Just a few minutes ago, my GF replied late again. And I didn't give a damn! I think I have contracted "discovery" disorder!
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Good for you!

Mind you I'm about to bomb you on another thread ;)
 
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Just a few minutes ago, my GF replied late again. And I didn't give a damn! I think I have contracted "discovery" disorder!
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What did she say and all of a sudden you don't give a damn?? That's quite a transformation.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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My Name is Nobody said:
What did she say and all of a sudden you don't give a damn?? That's quite a transformation.
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It's not her words that I didn't give a damn to, but the fact that she replied late.
 
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Seems like a technology issue, which a lot of people in society have. Immediate responses and you get upset when it isn't right away. Welcome to the real world, not everyone runs on your time clock.

If it's important, call her.
If you're just shooting the sh*t or something else that is useless, than don't have these high expectations that she'll shoot the sh*t back to you.

Another thought, maybe she has a life and she's a little to busy living it. I couldn't imagine doing something fun and having to stop every 5 minutes to answer a text message.
 
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fact is women communicate with you through their actions... So when she puts responding to you as a very low priority it shows how she feels about you... Would she take an hour to text back Brad Pitt...???? NO...LOL

Any way she should be texting you and you should be taking your time to get beck ...

Remember always do everything alittle less than she does...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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