Gf said I'm not sexually attractive

[planetjumper]

we been dating for a year now and this afternoon she told me she doesnt find me that sexually attractive but she find me physically attractive and I asked Becsuse she would get dry during sex
How can I get more sexually attractive
Also Ive been told before in the past by other girls that Im not good of a kisser and when we have sex that Im a little awkward and timid

 

[mrgoodstuff]

we been dating for a year now and this afternoon she told me she doesnt find me that sexually attractive but she find me physically attractive and I asked Becsuse she would get dry during sex
How can I get more sexually attractive
Also Ive been told before in the past by other girls that Im not good of a kisser and when we have sex that Im a little awkward and timid

You gotta figure if these females are trying to cut you down or giving good feedback. Perhaps the sexual vs physical attraction has something to do with what you say and your actions. Maybe she's bs'ing.

It sounds like these females want you to do what you feel like doing, to ravish them instead of waiting around for their approval.

 

[planetjumper]

yea true tbh I'm not reslly s confident guy all my life I've been quiet shy and reserved I've never approached girls and tbh idk how I became so Unconfident , I think I was just born thst way. I got into girls very late and had my first kiss very late ..the thing is I'm not blessed down there and I always thought I had a small one .one girl did tell me thst i Hsve a short and skinny one but I can make it up other ways
So I guess that makes a play on why I get very very nervous before having sex and can't kiss well

 

[mrgoodstuff]

yea true tbh I'm not reslly s confident guy all my life I've been quiet shy and reserved I've never approached girls and tbh idk how I became so Unconfident , I think I was just born thst way. I got into girls very late and had my first kiss very late ..the thing is I'm not blessed down there and I always thought I had a small one .one girl did tell me thst i Hsve a short and skinny one but I can make it up other ways
So I guess that makes a play on why I get very very nervous before having sex and can't kiss well

Next female you deal with make sure she likes you way more than you like her. Enjoy that $hit. She will give you lots of leeway.

Then at the end of the day, it's always better they love you more even if you love them. When you love them more you get screwed.

That next girl that's way into you is going to really pump your confidence up.

Dressing nice and being fit will also help if you are not already.

 

[BeExcellent]

Well what if OP doesn't know how to ravish her? There are things you can do. Being a good lover is learned.

This is long. OP needs some TLC.

Her body isn't lying to you or her. Assuming there is enough caring and openness between you this is an opportunity. You may be able to get better together.

Explore sensuality together. Touching, caressing, kissing. Slow down and enjoy each other. Let her guide you as far as what she likes more...and less.

Worry less about intercourse itself and more about arousal. There are all sorts of things you can read & look into about this. NOT porn. Porn is not your friend. It's too disconnected. Go no FAP as well. The guys can advise you better on this but build your desire for your own personal woman rather than a video or image.

As far as kissing goes, these things are not so good: mad tongue thrusting, sucking like a vacuum cleaner, super sloppy wet kisses that are reminiscent of a St. Bernard dog, all turn offs to most women. Ask your girlfriend how she loves to be kissed. Let her show you; really receive the feedback...then imitate.

Slow down & explore. Your entire body (and hers) can be erogenous. Perhaps she can show you how best to touch & arouse her. And vice versa. Be kind to one another and do not allow yourself to feel inadequate because she is teaching you. She knows her body & what kind of touch turns her on. We all have different bodies and respond to different things.

As for your physical attributes, embrace them. Do not let your own insecurity steal away your joy & vitality. You are enough. Take care to be fit and look your best but know you and your endowment is enough.

Sexy and good looking are not the same thing. I dated a model who was gorgeous, but not sexy. I left model guy for my husband, who was attractive (but not model good looking) and very sexy. Sexiness comes from self confidence. Self confidence comes from positive self acceptance. It is an extremely attractive quality.

She knows (if she is a caring girlfriend) that these are sensitive topics. In my opinion she could just leave if she is unhappy but she chose to inform you about the issue that holds her back with you. That seems to indicate she cares for you.

My guess is she wants you to evolve into a good lover. This benefits you whether she stays with you or not so be open to learning.

Embrace & accept yourself for the physical attributes you are given & be open to explore yourself and your sensuality through her and with her. In this way you can improve your skill set and build your sexual confidence.

 

[dustmuffin]

Read the sex God method. Go over to the married red pill reddit and read their side bar and posts. It deals with how to handle a relationship in a redpill manner.

 

[logicallefty]

IMO it sounds like she is telling you you look good to her but are acting beta.

 

[Alvafe]

we been dating for a year now and this afternoon she told me she doesnt find me that sexually attractive but she find me physically attractive and I asked Becsuse she would get dry during sex
How can I get more sexually attractive
Also Ive been told before in the past by other girls that Im not good of a kisser and when we have sex that Im a little awkward and timid

I would have said "is not what your friends think".

but serious only way to deal with it is pratice, play with her body a little more, try to relax also I guess you feel anxious during it, and practice, a lot.

 

[BeExcellent]

LYD said it better than I did. Size does not matter if you love yourself. Seriously. It's the confidence of the captain and the motion of the ocean.

 

[marmel75]

we been dating for a year now and this afternoon she told me she doesnt find me that sexually attractive but she find me physically attractive and I asked Becsuse she would get dry during sex
How can I get more sexually attractive
Also Ive been told before in the past by other girls that Im not good of a kisser and when we have sex that Im a little awkward and timid

Basically she is saying you are disappointing her in the bedroom and hoping you figure out or learn how to improve or else she likely will go search for someone who can perform better.

Go search the torrent Two Women Teach Sex and watch it all...every guy should watch and master what they tell you...it's greatly improved my abilities

 

[El Payaso]

we been dating for a year now and this afternoon she told me she doesnt find me that sexually attractive but she find me physically attractive and I asked Becsuse she would get dry during sex
How can I get more sexually attractive
Also Ive been told before in the past by other girls that Im not good of a kisser and when we have sex that Im a little awkward and timid

Next time reply "Yeah, I don't find you very attractive too".

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Next time reply "Yeah, I don't find you very attractive too".

This actually could help. Her attitude is corrosive towards yours. Just tell her, she could be more attractive too. It's not as mean, but she will get the point and it will level you guys out.

 

[zinc4]

we been dating for a year now and this afternoon she told me she doesnt find me that sexually attractive but she find me physically attractive and I asked Becsuse she would get dry during sex
How can I get more sexually attractive
Also Ive been told before in the past by other girls that Im not good of a kisser and when we have sex that Im a little awkward and timid

OP....don't listen to the other people. Their advice is all strategic, but clearly you don't need strategy.

You need to simply do what you want.

If that's slobbering like a dog all over her than so be.

The question is what turns you on OP????

Make THAT happen to get yourself off and nothing else. Don't worry if she likes it or not.

Find out what really gets you hard and dive I to it and force it upon her....don't ask.....geez man...

Here is the secret that women don't want you to know..

Be a selfish bastard 100 percent.

You want to lick that bitchs face then grab her and lick it like a wild lion about to eat it's prey.

You want to eat her ******* out while she sucks you off? Flip her in 69....don't ask....if she tries to talk literally tell her to shut up then **** her with no hesitate while u suck her toes or whatever kinky **** you want...

The point is simply do what makes your **** the hardest.

Hell even if it's forcing her to watch a porn on your smart phone of a chick getting gang banged while you **** her then do it! And don't worry if she likes your kisses or the sex.

It's your world in the bedroom not hers.

In short.....rape that *****.

 

[Dingo]

Size does matter so better learn to make up for it....

Sometimes women just want to get f'd hard... Ravish her....

 

[Infern0]

Op, Id put good money on that you watch a fair amount of porn would I be right?

 

[MrWood]

i <3 my c0ck

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Op, Id put good money on that you watch a fair amount of porn would I be right?

Porn is the NBA of c0cks. Average height in the NBA is 6'7", with some 7'2" and 7'5" guys. Average height in this country is 5'9" or 5'10".

Don't use porn to judge your c0ck size.

Also don't watch to porn to figure out how to please a lady in the sack.

 

[El Payaso]

This actually could help. Her attitude is corrosive towards yours. Just tell her, she could be more attractive too. It's not as mean, but she will get the point and it will level you guys out.

Yup. A girl I was dating once said I'm not muscular enough to lift her in bed. I just said "No, you're too fat so you have to lose a lot of weight first". That instantly shut her up and before you know it she was spending every day at the gym after work.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Yup. A girl I was dating once said I'm not muscular enough to lift her in bed. I just said "No, you're too fat so you have to lose a lot of weight first". That instantly shut her up and before you know it she was spending every day at the gym after work.

Haha, did she get her fat a$$ into good shape?

 

[El Payaso]

Haha, did she get her fat a$$ into good shape?

Funny enough, yes. And the sex got better too because I targeted her insecurities.