"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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LegendBoy

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Okay my gf has myspace. She talks to guys on there. Occasionally she adds a guy she seens around that don't know her. I get don't like her ading guys she don't know.

How can I make her not do that?

I dont want **** like be a man.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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ConantheLibertarian

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Take away her computer privileges :D. Seriously there's a similar thread on page 2 about this, stop being so damn insecure. Is she not allowed to chat with some guys online? Trust that she won't do anything with these guys, which I doubt she will. But if she does, your insecurity will have played a role, then you can dump her.
 

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LegendBoy said:
I dont want **** like be a man.
Then there is no solution.

Are you the guy that got all pissy about something like this? Or are you the guy that called up some other chick to chat to while she's busy on MySpace?

Also, why don't you try MySpace out too? I hear it's easy as hell to score chicks from.
 

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That's a major Red Flag. Dump her.

My LTR doesn't have male friends, no MySpace and doesn't go to clubs.
Just the way it should be. what would you have to deal with all that bullsh*t?
 

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Hey there LegendBoy. I know where you're coming from- I used to have bouts of insecurity as well.

But honestly, the best method is not to "fix" your GF (ie. make her stop talking to random guys on myspace), but to fix yourself.

Step back from your jealousy for a moment and see where you're coming from- do you have any how much of an insecure, female dog you're being?!?! She's chatting with people on myspace, great! Before you know it, she'll be giving guys blow jobs in your toilet.

I know at first, it feels like that, but we really have to step back from our mental "apocalypse" projections, and be a little more rational. Chances are, you'll never meet a girl without a male friend or two. Heres the way I see it:

If you wanna have a hot girlfriend (and you do, right?), then you gotta accept the fact that guys will be hitting on her. If you're too much of a wuss to handle that, then find yourself a fat, ugly hag for a GF (and even then, there are some pretty DESPERATE men out there!)

Blusher said: "That's a major Red Flag. Dump her.
My LTR doesn't have male friends, no MySpace and doesn't go to clubs.
Just the way it should be. what would you have to deal with all that bullsh*t?"

I believe that's just insecurity on your part Blusher. You know the ancient Chinese tradition of bound feet? They bound the feet of married women so they couldn't run away from home and cheat. Male insecurity at its greatest. Obviously, I've never met you so I don't know, but thats just what I see coming from your post.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Sir Juanalot

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Blusher said:
That's a major Red Flag. Dump her.

My LTR doesn't have male friends, no MySpace and doesn't go to clubs.
Just the way it should be. what would you have to deal with all that bullsh*t?
Do you have a box you lock her in when you go to work as well :confused: :down:
 

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you add every hot chick you can find and have them leave you flinty comments.
make her jealous.
 

girl_in_a_boy_forum

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Your girlfriend isn't allowed to have online friends? Jeez, what else isn't she allowed to do? Get over your insecurity and stop being so paranoid. If you're afraid of your ability to keep her, improve yourself until you've gained that confidence. If you're afraid of her loyalty to you, build that bond until it's no longer an issue.
 

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girl_in_a_boy_forum, dumb down your grammar or you are going to intimidate alot of guys on here. Our skills only work on dumb girls.

Of course, some of us true Jedi Masters can get the smart ones too ;)
 

Blusher

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I believe that's just insecurity on your part Blusher.
Actually, I never asked her that much. She just didn't have male friends before we met as she didn't believe Men and Women could be friends without ulterior motives. So that was just a given.

As for going out to clubs, it's simply not her thing. She enjoys going for a drink on a terrace with her friends or have dinner with them.

It just makes life a lot easier and to be frank I don't miss a girlfriend who gets phone calls from her new male friend.

This is just really smooth when you don't have to deal with that sort of crap.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Listen here kid - you are no one special - you are just a life-form with a penis, amongst many penis life-forms!!! In other words - you are no one special - you are merely the next pimp in line!!!
 
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Legendboy - you are a looking for a "different type of woman - she is not what you are looking for - move on and do as she does -- look for other possibilities - don't be a fool!!!!
 

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Last Man Standing said:
Listen here kid - you are no one special - you are just a life-form with a penis, amongst many penis life-forms!!! In other words - you are no one special - you are merely the next pimp in line!!!
You seriously have major issues with pimps and penis' man, like you really do. Me thinks your pimp daddy hasnt given you your monthly bit(hslap.

In other words if you havnt got anything constructive to say keep your old limp tird a55 infront of the pc screen wanking off to granny porn and leave the getting hot honeys to us OK.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Well is this the only thing she has done in your relationship thats bothered you?
 

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LegendBoy said:
Occasionally she adds a guy she seens around that don't know her. I get don't like her ading guys she don't know.
That would piss me off too.
 

LegendBoy

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I told her to take his fag i was gonna fight (couple of years ago)off her top friends.. She didn't and said there good friends.

Whatever trevor
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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