GF parents staying with her and won’t introduce me

[earlkeese]

So my gfs parents are coming to stay with her for a few days and she already told me I won’t be meeting them. We have been dating since last May. I also left for a work trip on Sunday and instead of seeing me she went to game night with her friends. A few weeks ago she told me I wasn’t her forever. I feel like an idiot and a punching bag.

 

[RangerMIke]

Don't pursue relationships with chicks. That is their job. You as a man are only supposed to be fvcking them... they get to decide what that all means.

The worst thing you can do is get all butt hurt about it. Just tell her, "No problem, let me know when they are gone." And go out with other chicks... Be willing to walk away and mean it.

 

[marmel75]

So my gfs parents are coming to stay with her for a few days and she already told me I won’t be meeting them. We have been dating since last May. I also left for a work trip on Sunday and instead of seeing me she went to game night with her friends. A few weeks ago she told me I wasn’t her forever. I feel like an idiot and a punching bag.

Ok, so start dating other women and slowly drop her out of your life...she has already told you what she thinks and is likely either already doing or will soon be doing the same.

Not much you can do, she isn't feeling you anymore. Personally if it was me i would just dump her now and get it over with.

 

[earlkeese]

Yeah, thanks. Going no contact starting today.

 

[sazc]

If you wanted an LTR, The moment she told you you "weren't her forever" should have been the moment you went NC.

That's a disrespectful thing to say.

 

[SgtSplacker]

A man needs to constantly game other women. NEVER stop doing this unless a girl practically begs you to commit. And even then she does need to be worthy. You lost frame homie, forget about this girl that fruit spoiled.

 

[guru1000]

So my gfs parents are coming to stay with her for a few days and she already told me I won’t be meeting them. We have been dating since last May. I also left for a work trip on Sunday and instead of seeing me she went to game night with her friends. A few weeks ago she told me I wasn’t her forever. I feel like an idiot and a punching bag.

Seems like a non-exclusive relation to me. You somehow reversed roles with her. YOU should be telling her that, and she should be trying to "trap" you into her nest.

Masculine Energy = Free as a bird, inviting many into the harem
Feminine Energy = Tries to trap the masculine energy into her nest, and fends off the competing birds

This is what happens when you abandon your masculine energy and assume exclusivity where there is none. Where there is a void of masculine energy, she assumes the role. And so ... your circumstance.

I have a hunch this arrangement was never exclusive to begin with. And so, I'd consider this a gift of "awakening."

What to do? Initiate a harem. Easy.

 

[Red Legg]

You somehow reversed roles with her. YOU should be telling her that, and she should be trying to "trap" you into her nest.

Masculine Energy = Free as a bird, inviting many into the harem
Feminine Energy = Tries to trap the masculine energy into her nest, and fends off the competing birds

This is what happens when you abandon your masculine energy. Where there is a void of masculine energy, she assumes up the role. And so ... your circumstance.

I'd consider this a gift, but I know you're not there yet.

What to do? Initiate a harem. Easy.

I disagree...you can be masculine with one woman you just have to maintain a rock solid frame... just don't get sucked in to her "nest" that is the trick most men can't seem to be able to negotiate...I am getting everything I want out of one woman at the moment.A harem would waste too much time on women...I want time to myself I'll be damned if a woman is going to cut in on my fishing time.

 

[guru1000]

I disagree...you can be masculine with one woman you just have to maintain a rock solid frame... just don't get sucked in to her "nest" that is the trick most men can't seem to be able to negotiate...I am getting everything I want out of one woman at the moment.

If there is true exclusivity, yes, which presumes she is the initiator of meeting her parents, not him.

Curious RL, is this the one woman who banged another guy, and then you took her back?

 

[earlkeese]

No, it isn’t. At least not to my knowledge. It’s been an endless string of disrespect that I’m at the end of my rope in.

 

[earlkeese]

And it’s not a huge deal about meeting her parents. I’m looking more at the underlying meaning. You aren’t going to be around so there’s no point.

 

[Red Legg]

If there is true exclusivity, yes, which presumes she is the initiator of meeting her parents, not him.

Curious RL, is this the one woman who banged another guy, and then you took her back?

Yes..she is a natural blond HB 8 so she is going to have men hanging around.This happened at the beginning of our seeing each other when she asked for exclusivity after 2 months I said yes but knew it was too quick.We have a "different" kind of relationship anyways as I live 90 miles away and we only meet up on the weekends and sometimes midweek (She gives me more sex than I can handle) she pays for 60 % of dates (food and booze) so I am enjoying our" relationship" as is.As of now she spends 99 percent of her free time with me so the possibility she is seeing someone now is pretty low,and the fact that she drives every other week down to where I live..(I attribute all this to my rock solid frame I have developed) she always comments on how "manly" I am..

 

[guru1000]

No, it isn’t. At least not to my knowledge. It’s been an endless string of disrespect that I’m at the end of my rope in.

Most men don't understand womenspeek.

Not desiring to introduce you to her parents = That's the message
Not spending time with you as often as she did = That's the message
Disrespecting you quite often = That's the message

Yes, the exclusive part of the relation---whether or not you choose to accept this assuming exclusivity had ever existed (which is doubtful)--is over.

Now what are you going to do with this newfound knowledge?

 

[guru1000]

Yes..she is a natural blond HB 8 so she is going to have men hanging around.This happened at the beginning of our seeing each other when she asked for exclusivity after 2 months I said yes but knew it was too quick.

When a woman is truly invested in you, although she may be dating around, she won't be sleeping around even if you aren't exclusive yet, unless she has character flaws. Instead, she will be pressing hard for your exclusivity so that you are not sleeping around.

RL, do what you choose, but given the above and 90 miles away, I would be "free as a bird."

 

[Red Legg]

When a woman is truly invested in you, although she may be dating around, she won't be sleeping around even if you aren't exclusive yet, unless she has character flaws. Instead, she will be pressing hard for your exclusivity so that you are not sleeping around.

RL, do what you choose, but given the above and 90 miles away, I would be "free as a bird."

I am free as a bird... That is why I choose to have NO harem (I could if I wanted too) but harems take time and energy my friend and my life does NOT revolve around women If you have a harem your life would revolve around women then.I choose to chase tornadoes and travel and fish sex is more of a side activity for me (below fishing even) I would rather reel in a 10 pound bass than pound my super hot girlfriend I told this once to a man who saw my woman..he said too me your fvckin crazy red legg and I said nope that is why you dont have a blondie blue...

 

[earlkeese]

Most men don't understand womenspeek.

Not desiring to introduce you to her parents = That's the message
Not spending time with you as often as she did = That's the message
Disrespecting you quite often = That's the message

Yes, the exclusive part of the relation---whether or not you choose to accept this assuming exclusivity had ever existed (which is doubtful)--is over.

Now what are you going to do with this newfound knowledge?

I’m going to stop pretending what you are saying isnt spot on.

 

[wifehunter]

 

[guru1000]

I’m going to stop pretending what you are saying isnt spot on.

Every man here has been in your shoes at one time. That is perceiving what is not there. Nothing wrong with exclusivity with a woman who merits it and who consistently demonstrates that through her actions. We often rationalize what we want to see based on what we desire. Unfortunately when her actions no longer match what you desire, time to forge the wherewithal to walk away.

When I introduced the mantra, "Keep one foot in and the other foot out the door," it wasn't an indictment on LTRs, but more an exercise of being ready (to walk away when warranted).

 

[Red Legg]

Had two relationships like this, you'd be amazed at how efficient their cheating is. Reasonably certain one of them had a dude on the drive down.

Oh you don't have to tell me that I already know..I think the bottom line is I am satisfied and having fun at the same time...Now we do have amazing sexual chemistry after a year and a half we can't keep our hands off each other..I have been with 250 plus women in my life and NEVER experienced this level of sexual chemistry and that is no bullsh!t...

 

[Trump]

So my gfs parents are coming to stay with her for a few days and she already told me I won’t be meeting them. We have been dating since last May. I also left for a work trip on Sunday and instead of seeing me she went to game night with her friends. A few weeks ago she told me I wasn’t her forever. I feel like an idiot and a punching bag.

Yet if she said;

1) My parents are coming to stay for a few days and you’ll be meeting them
2) Im cancelling game night with my friends because I want to see you
3) You are my forever

You would say “I feel suffocated and need my space.’