"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Gf never initiates hanging out

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Don Juan
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Yet texts me a lot of I miss you texts, can't wait too see you...ect. On average she texts me 2.5 to my 1 text, never says no when I tell her we meeting up, if not she makes an alternative. So i doubt it an intrest level issue.

If I leave it, she just sends more i miss you texts, untill I initiate again.

Any advice guys?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Pair A Dice

Don Juan
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She's a woman. By nature they are indecisive and fickle. Of course she won't text you to hang out with you. It's up to you to be the man and assert yourself and hang out with her. If it bothers you, get rid of her, but good luck trying to find a woman that actually initiates hanging out. :up:
 

The Duke

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Most likely this girl isn't very assertive and a non assertive person isn't going to make arrangements. As long as she isn't blowing you off then I'd say you have little to worry about. In a way telling you she misses you is her way of telling you she wants to hang out.
 
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