"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Gf Issue/Fb ?

tmac15

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Alright fellas,

Need some advice. Real quick 411. The Gf and I been dating a yr now. Things going well from what I can tell. She tells me she loves me and misses me every other day or few days. She tells me I changed the way she thinks about things in her life and she believes in serendipity (fate brought us together). We spend the entire weekends together and one or two weekdays with each other, nookie 2-3 times a week. We planned a trip to Miami next month. She’s turning 30 this year and said she would like to take a trip with me somewhere to celebrate in the middle of the year.

However she isn’t happy with anything in her life. She doesn’t like her job, where she lives, etc. A high maintenance woman (I guess this is what you get when you date a attractive woman.).

She recently told me she made her facebook page private so only her close friends can see what she is doing. She removed her status (single, relationship, married) to keep noisy people out of her life, etc, etc. so everyone doesn’t need to know what she’s doing. I don’t have facebook nor do I care to get facebook.

She said in efforts to look for another job she wants to network/socialize more and put herself out there (woman’s groups, young professionals group). She invited myself and a friend of mine to a young professionals group with her to network with her.

Should I be worried about this girl, she never seems happy recently? There are some things that I want to say to her like why did you remove your status from fb (yes this might be a insecurity issue of mine)? The other thing I want to say is are you ever going to be happy with your life? I would think a 30 yr old woman is chomping at the bit to settle down. Do you guys think these things are big deals or am I blowing things way out of proportion (like, the fb issue)? Input on how to handles these type of issues, please!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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sebastian11

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i think youre right to be curious about the facebook thing, if my gf removed her relationship status id take it as a red flag. also it's never good to be with someone who is always miserable about their own life. are her looks the only thing she has going for herself?
 

tmac15

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She has a college degree and stable job. I think I'm gonna confront her about the FB thing tonight. What do you guys think?
 

Tiguere

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Tell her you would like to ser that status back. And record her respone and post it here. Also record her body language.
 

horaholic

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Taking the whole status off, is a lot different than setting it to single. Facebook is different from myspace in that the profiles are default set to private, so randoms cant see much about you except your picture.So only her freinds will even know anything. If she set her status to single, and opened up her profile to the public; THAT would be a red flag.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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sebastian11

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i feel as if her taking it off means that she could very easily be telling people that she is single
 

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if you confront her, wont it make you look insecure?
arent you losing frame of control, alot of dating books from SS advice on how to always be in control. I think that if something is going on (reason for her facebook status thing) and if you confront her, i betya that she will just get pissed off and do something behind your back and not tell ya.
-just talking from experience!
 
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