"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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GF is on an internship till December?

Sgthaytham

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Things have been going well recently: she sent me a message on Monday morning saying thanks to me for being patient and if I was interested in some dinner with a couple friends.

Anyway, she’s on an internship till December - this is something she had planned since before we got together.

We won’t be seeing eachother much.

I think I can get through it.

I told her i understood she would be very busy and to get in touch if her schedule freed up and we could organise something.

Do you think I should wait till she gets in touch with me?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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soulforge

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Yeh don't be chasing man.. If her interest level is high, she will stay in touch with you.

Don't come across as being needy.. Keep yourself busy, hit the gym, hobbies etc.. Maybe smash some other chicks lol

Its always a risk when your girl goes away for months.. So be prepared.

Best thing to do is let her do most of the texting, but don't go to the EXTREME and become totally unavailable.

Find a balance
 

Sgthaytham

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Yeh don't be chasing man.. If her interest level is high, she will stay in touch with you.

Don't come across as being needy.. Keep yourself busy, hit the gym, hobbies etc.. Maybe smash some other chicks lol

Its always a risk when your girl goes away for months.. So be prepared.

Best thing to do is let her do most of the texting, but don't go to the EXTREME and become totally unavailable.

Find a balance
I agree with everything you’ve said, except hooking up with other girls. That’s cheating.

I know she needs space right now...

She’s not a very expressive girl, especially in public, so I don’t expect her to be making moves on me when we’re out and about.

She does do a lot of things to show she actually cares though.

Anyway, she’s really, really busy right now so I will let her get in touch.
 

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Not a fan of LDR. Hope for the best but prepare for the worst. You don't have to cheat if u dont want to but keep your options open, like female orbiters haha
 
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