"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Gf is feeling insecure? please help

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Okay so its been 6 months into my relationship and we've gone to 3rd base but no sex yet. I asked her why she wants to wait and she tells me that she's scared I might leave even though she says she feels secure with me(she's been hurt in the past), pregnancy, and she doesn't want to feel like a slut because some of her friends waited for a year.

Also she gives me handjobs/bjs every now and then but I want it more often.

Any help with this? Thanks

Forgot to mention she's a virgin too
 
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Proselytiser said:
Either your being played or she is prudent in the extreme. The latter betrays crippling issues with sexuality. Best to stay away
a prude? yeah she gives him bjs/hand jobs. You are either being played or she has some psychological issues. To make it easier for you she IS NOT A KEEPER! start playing the game and find yourself a girl that gives you what you want.
 

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Demonstrate higher value.. Don't tell her directly it's about sex.. Tell her "The only reason I would leave, is if you give me a reason to leave, and you're giving me a reason right now by not trusting me to stay."

Then she'll either let you leave (then she's not worth it anyways) or demonstrate that she DOES trust you, by giving you what you want.. it's a win/win situation.
 

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like warrior said, 'she's playing you like a flute.' 6 months and no sexx all because she's been hurt before, her friends waited for a year and she dont wanna look like a slut..ha!!..Do you really think if its someone she was really attracted to she'd wait a week to have sexx with let alone 6 freakin months?!:trouble:
either she's getting it somewhere else or she's just a lil bit on the mental side.
 

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Agreed with teacha, if a girl really wanted to have sex with ya, it would've happened by now..
 

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Thanks for the replies but I should of mentioned she was a virgin lol

Would it still be the same?
 

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Some people are simply against premarital sex, either for religious or philosophical reasons - does she present these reasons too? If not (ie, if she just says the time is not right) then it's getting to be quite a long time. I have been in this situation before, although I think it only took 4-5 months - 6 is getting to be quite a while.

There is one main strategy you can use in the meantime, if you are willing to wait around for her to be ready for sex, but are not getting enough hand jobs/bjs. You never want to actually tell a girl "I want more bjs." But what you can do is, next time you end up making out with her, and she doesn't take it any farther, gently remind her about blue balls. Just express some discomfort, and tell her in a sort of apologetic way, "sorry, it's just that... well, you know about blue balls right?" She actually may not. "Yeah, it gets really painful for a guy if you don't finish what you've, um, started, so to speak." Don't make a big deal out of it, but gently imply that it's up to her to fix this problem. She may get the point. If you continue to have makeout sessions without conclusions, at some point, when she starts kissing you, back away and say sort of apologetically, "look, sweetie, I want to kiss you, but if we get into this, it has to, well, have a conclusion you know, because it's seriously painful when we just make out and don't do anything else." Make this sort of a requirement for continuing to get kissed - but don't make it sound like an ultimatum. Just say "yeah otherwise, sweetie it's perfectly fine, we can just cuddle, I don't want you to do anything you don't want to do."

Do you make her ***? If not, you need to work on that and the rest will solve itself.
 

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It's all right........ if u have a good time!
Abcd said:
Just express some discomfort, and tell her in a sort of apologetic way, "sorry, it's just that... well, you know about blue balls right?" She actually may not. "Yeah, it gets really painful for a guy if you don't finish what you've, um, started, so to speak."
Keep in mind that you need to maintain higher value.
 

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The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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dumbsheet said:
Thanks for the replies but I should of mentioned she was a virgin lol

Would it still be the same?
She might really be a virgin and wants to be really sure before she gives it all to you. All you can really do here is make her very comfortable around you, be very patient and understanding of the whole situation and her. dont try and pressure her into having sex with you or she might just pull away from you into the arms of another man.

OR

She might just be playing you with the whole 'I'M A VIRGIN' thing and may be giving it to every dude except you (I know some bittches who get turned on by that ****t.) and she's just bull****ting you by telling you she's been hurt before and wants to take it slow knowing you are gullible( not saying you are) enough to believe that load of crapp. :trouble:

How do you know she's a virgin anyways? She told you that? Anyways
only you know what's really going on here and we may give you different advice but we don't really know the whole story, only you know the situation at hand.So Act accordingly!
 
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