"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Gf is feeling insecure? please help

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Okay so its been 6 months into my relationship and we've gone to 3rd base but no sex yet. I asked her why she wants to wait and she tells me that she's scared I might leave even though she says she feels secure with me(she's been hurt in the past), pregnancy, and she doesn't want to feel like a slut because some of her friends waited for a year.

Also she gives me handjobs/bjs every now and then but I want it more often.

Any help with this? Thanks

Forgot to mention she's a virgin too
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Proselytiser said:
Either your being played or she is prudent in the extreme. The latter betrays crippling issues with sexuality. Best to stay away
a prude? yeah she gives him bjs/hand jobs. You are either being played or she has some psychological issues. To make it easier for you she IS NOT A KEEPER! start playing the game and find yourself a girl that gives you what you want.
 

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Demonstrate higher value.. Don't tell her directly it's about sex.. Tell her "The only reason I would leave, is if you give me a reason to leave, and you're giving me a reason right now by not trusting me to stay."

Then she'll either let you leave (then she's not worth it anyways) or demonstrate that she DOES trust you, by giving you what you want.. it's a win/win situation.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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like warrior said, 'she's playing you like a flute.' 6 months and no sexx all because she's been hurt before, her friends waited for a year and she dont wanna look like a slut..ha!!..Do you really think if its someone she was really attracted to she'd wait a week to have sexx with let alone 6 freakin months?!:trouble:
either she's getting it somewhere else or she's just a lil bit on the mental side.
 

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Agreed with teacha, if a girl really wanted to have sex with ya, it would've happened by now..
 

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Thanks for the replies but I should of mentioned she was a virgin lol

Would it still be the same?
 

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Some people are simply against premarital sex, either for religious or philosophical reasons - does she present these reasons too? If not (ie, if she just says the time is not right) then it's getting to be quite a long time. I have been in this situation before, although I think it only took 4-5 months - 6 is getting to be quite a while.

There is one main strategy you can use in the meantime, if you are willing to wait around for her to be ready for sex, but are not getting enough hand jobs/bjs. You never want to actually tell a girl "I want more bjs." But what you can do is, next time you end up making out with her, and she doesn't take it any farther, gently remind her about blue balls. Just express some discomfort, and tell her in a sort of apologetic way, "sorry, it's just that... well, you know about blue balls right?" She actually may not. "Yeah, it gets really painful for a guy if you don't finish what you've, um, started, so to speak." Don't make a big deal out of it, but gently imply that it's up to her to fix this problem. She may get the point. If you continue to have makeout sessions without conclusions, at some point, when she starts kissing you, back away and say sort of apologetically, "look, sweetie, I want to kiss you, but if we get into this, it has to, well, have a conclusion you know, because it's seriously painful when we just make out and don't do anything else." Make this sort of a requirement for continuing to get kissed - but don't make it sound like an ultimatum. Just say "yeah otherwise, sweetie it's perfectly fine, we can just cuddle, I don't want you to do anything you don't want to do."

Do you make her ***? If not, you need to work on that and the rest will solve itself.
 

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It's all right........ if u have a good time!
Abcd said:
Just express some discomfort, and tell her in a sort of apologetic way, "sorry, it's just that... well, you know about blue balls right?" She actually may not. "Yeah, it gets really painful for a guy if you don't finish what you've, um, started, so to speak."
Keep in mind that you need to maintain higher value.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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dumbsheet said:
Thanks for the replies but I should of mentioned she was a virgin lol

Would it still be the same?
She might really be a virgin and wants to be really sure before she gives it all to you. All you can really do here is make her very comfortable around you, be very patient and understanding of the whole situation and her. dont try and pressure her into having sex with you or she might just pull away from you into the arms of another man.

OR

She might just be playing you with the whole 'I'M A VIRGIN' thing and may be giving it to every dude except you (I know some bittches who get turned on by that ****t.) and she's just bull****ting you by telling you she's been hurt before and wants to take it slow knowing you are gullible( not saying you are) enough to believe that load of crapp. :trouble:

How do you know she's a virgin anyways? She told you that? Anyways
only you know what's really going on here and we may give you different advice but we don't really know the whole story, only you know the situation at hand.So Act accordingly!
 
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