"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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GF gets really drunk to the point where she passes out

Shivastorm_88

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We were supposed to go to a party (friend reunion of hers) out of town together, but I ended up cancelling because I was feeling like crap (I actually drank too much on Friday and ended puking quite a bit myself, she ended up taking care of me).

Now the same thing happened on her end. She went to the party, and she texted me this morning apologizing about not giving a sign of life, saying she got really drunk and passed out.

How would you guys go around this?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Shivastorm_88

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27 the both of us.

Thing is, for me it happens once in a blue moon, literally. And it's because I never drink, hence I can't handle my liquor. I got sick because I was at a bring your own wine restaurant with friends, we each had a full bottle of wine and a few beers.

She, on the other hand, does it a bit more often. Maybe once every month or so
 

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its called subtle punishment when she drinks. eventually, based on the laws of classical conditioning, she will cut down.

but i only suggest doing that if you really feel the "need" to stay with this girl and are going to marry her - which i would advise anyone against. (I put need in quotations because no one needs another person.)

other then that exception either deal with it or drop her and move on to someone who doesn't drink if it bothers you that much.

and if it does bother you that much then this will only be the beginning of your problems with this girl.

i foreshadow a break up in the midst.
 

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Why are you both in the first place drinking till you pass out regardless of how frequently? Zero self control or respect.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Desdinova

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Isn't this something that 21 year olds should be doing?

If she's got a drinking problem, then it's not going to go away until SHE does something about it. You can tell her you don't like it until you're blue in the face, but if she's dependent on the alcohol, she'll just keep on drinking.
 

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Both of you have no self control , therefore neither has right to condemn the other. Marry her.
 
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