"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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GF gave me the REASONS FOR BREAKING UP!

EvilSpirit22

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I talked to my girlfriend well ex girlfriend and she wasn't that much angry now although things are still hurting her but she said if we could be friends but I said NO. So she gave me some reasons for not coming back to me.

1. You've started to ignore your friends and you fought with them just because of me.

2. You've made me your life although I am just a part of your life.

3. We are still young and this is not the age to be talking about marriage and kids.

4. You've made this relationship a priority.

5. You were a bright student but you said you would do a ****ty job just for the sake of staying with me don't ruin your life for me I can leave you anytime so why would you waste your life on me.

6. Too much restrictions like don't talk to other guys etc when you know I love you do you think I could leave you for a person who doesn't matter to me.

7. You hit me you abused me but still I am with you because I love you why can't you see that and why can't you trust me.



Yeah I agree with all of them and she is right. I made her my life. I can get her back and I know she loves me but I can see the amount of pain she's going through. I need to get my life back together. She loved me for the person I was when we met not for the person I am today. Insecure and jealous. I gotta get my **** together.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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No.Danny

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What is wrong with you!!??
You got her then you went FULL MOTHER FVCKNG AFC MODE. YOU FOUGHT WITH FRIENDS? GIVING UP FOR JOBS FOR HER?? YOU'RE CREEPY
 

j.619

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creepy af.

We've all been there, though. Good on her for explaining it to you so this forum didn't have to. Read The Bible and take notes. Make the decision to change your life now.
 

pyros

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you started another thread about this same girl and you got a lot of replies, wtf?

She is not that into you. Accept it.

5. You were a bright student but you said you would do a ****ty job just for the sake of staying with me don't ruin your life for me I can leave you anytime so why would you waste your life on me.

7. You hit me you abused me but still I am with you because I love you why can't you see that and why can't you trust me.


she says she lovse you but she says she can leave you at any moment. Uh uhh...she's not being honest about something...guess what?

Move on.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I am a little worried that she is accusing you of "abuse". I hope she doesn't get pumped by one of her man hating girlfriends into calling the cops on you. Lay low and watch your a$$.
 

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EvilSpirit22 said:
I talked to my girlfriend well ex girlfriend and she wasn't that much angry now although things are still hurting her but she said if we could be friends but I said NO. So she gave me some reasons for not coming back to me.

1. You've started to ignore your friends and you fought with them just because of me.

2. You've made me your life although I am just a part of your life.

3. We are still young and this is not the age to be talking about marriage and kids.

4. You've made this relationship a priority.

5. You were a bright student but you said you would do a ****ty job just for the sake of staying with me don't ruin your life for me I can leave you anytime so why would you waste your life on me.

6. Too much restrictions like don't talk to other guys etc when you know I love you do you think I could leave you for a person who doesn't matter to me.

7. You hit me you abused me but still I am with you because I love you why can't you see that and why can't you trust me.


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wow. that's pretty much the cliff notes version of the dj bible.
 
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