"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

GF doesn't wanna do it?

Credos

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 20, 2005
Messages
658
Reaction score
19
So heres my latest story, I hooked up with a HB 8.5, though she was waaaaaaaaaaay outta my league. So I couldn't help myself but try to seduce her, and guess what, I got the girl. So she's sleeping over once and a while, it all start out nice. She's smart, funny, laughs at the people I hate (damn I love that about her :p laughing right in their face). She says she's not a virgin, though some akward stories have come up... Anyway so we're 2 months further, and the only sex I've had is a j*rkoff, and impatient (though considering two months no real sex might even be VERY patient ;)) as I am I spoke to her about the fact that I wanted to fvck her.

All the sudden she starts yapping about her old relationship, thrustcrap, how she hasen't been "herself" all these years but somebody she's not, that she doesn't wanna lose me and that she fears she's pushing me away... We're 3 months togheter now, she's given me b-jobs, but doesn't want me to go down on her (Not that I'm complaining on this part :whistle:), we haven't even gotten beyond this stage, but everytime I lie next to her and not doing her is driving me Insane... We're ending up in a lot of fights lately, which is driving us apart, but everytime I talk to her about how much it irritates me that we haven't done it, she start crying and becoming emotional and stuff...

What should I do?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

timorozco

Don Juan
Joined
Sep 30, 2003
Messages
17
Reaction score
0
told your emotions in and play the game man. let the topic slide away for a while. you have to give her the impression it's not about the sex, it's about feeling more connected to her. play it her way and tell her what she wants to hear, not be blunt. bring it up not as a discussion of sex, which would put her guard up, but as a discussion of feeling connected and being together, which will lower her guard.
 

Hoogie

Don Juan
Joined
Jul 2, 2002
Messages
84
Reaction score
0
Another option might be to fcuk it (not literally of course - jokes)

Your putting her on a pedestal and its not letting you think straight. Humans are sexual beings and its natural for you to want to fcuk her... if she doesnt want to thats her right.. but if you cant stand it.. move on... dont treat her like a queen

If its causing fights also and shes still not giving up the goods then who knows... she might hold out for a lot longer than you think. Deep down she'll think your an AFC if you hang around AND she'll waste your time.

besides... you KNOW you can pick up 8.5's now .... y not see how high you can go ;)

but seriously... i dont like to usually give opinions on this sh!t cause it depends on where YOUR wanting to go and what YOU want to do... i say fcuk the DJ way of thinking for these situations SOMETIMES... make your own rules. just putting another option out there for you.
 

ManiacJack

Don Juan
Joined
Apr 13, 2007
Messages
31
Reaction score
0
Ah, if you want to do it with her, build up the sexual tension mate. It's very important... Anticipation also excites girls quite a lot... Here's a David DeAngelo trick... When you are with her, stand up and hug her, and then act as though you are about to lay her right there and then. Then let go, sit back down and say, "I only wanted to hug you..." Do it again after that, and by the third time she will probably be excited enough to do it anyway.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

Read more...

Top