"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Renegade357
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Tough one dude. Every chick I've ever dated has hated their job. Just listen to her venting when she's upset, but don't offer advice or try to fix her problem unless she asks. And make sure it doesn't mess up your relationship. Like her cancelling plans because of work troubles.luber873 said:
Checkmate12
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I think the only negative spin this could have is if you try to become "Mr. Fix-it". You're not her guidance counselor so don't try to be. Just listen... and then listen some more. The more you do so, the more she see's you as a supportive, caring boyfriend.. when ironically you didn't even have to do anything.luber873 said:
hockeyfreak79
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This is absolutely normal. I understand why you think it is a attraction killer, because it is!luber873 said:
Be thankful that it is just about work for right now. Why do think so many DJ's stress to stay away from divorced single moms with baggage. Because of the stress and baggage they bring to the table! BINGO! kid/kids, ex's, work, just about anything you can think of.
You've got it easy for now kid, enjoy it.