"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Renegade357
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Tough one dude. Every chick I've ever dated has hated their job. Just listen to her venting when she's upset, but don't offer advice or try to fix her problem unless she asks. And make sure it doesn't mess up your relationship. Like her cancelling plans because of work troubles.luber873 said:
Checkmate12
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I think the only negative spin this could have is if you try to become "Mr. Fix-it". You're not her guidance counselor so don't try to be. Just listen... and then listen some more. The more you do so, the more she see's you as a supportive, caring boyfriend.. when ironically you didn't even have to do anything.luber873 said:
hockeyfreak79
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This is absolutely normal. I understand why you think it is a attraction killer, because it is!luber873 said:
Be thankful that it is just about work for right now. Why do think so many DJ's stress to stay away from divorced single moms with baggage. Because of the stress and baggage they bring to the table! BINGO! kid/kids, ex's, work, just about anything you can think of.
You've got it easy for now kid, enjoy it.