"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Gf asked WEIRD question..

MotownMack

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I am with drak_ool and most of the other posters on this one. This was silly sh1t test that you probably should have seen a mile away. It's also pretty childish, and if she's playing these silly little games all the time, I'd consider giving her the heave-ho.

But, this is also true, to some extent.

You didn't fail the test by answering yes, you failed by not being a man afterwards.
In the interest of setting the tone for next time, I wouldn't do a complete back peddle on your comments. Then you fail the test yet a second time by feeding her insecurities, which is obvious that she is worried that guys find her mother more attractive than her. I would not have been completely apologetic, but possibly offered an explanation, and left it at that.

Seriously though, thats a wack job question. Not sure how long you guys have been dating or how old you are, but if these sort of things are routine for her and you've been dating a while, she's got some growing up to do.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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drak_ool said:
Then, you don't have the balls to stick by your response! Right there, that s a double failure.
This is the major failure. Who cares what your answer is. When she knows that she can toy with your emotions, she loses interest. Stick with it, don't apologize for being a man with a d1ck, and she'll stop being such a brat. If she doesn't, then that's enough to move on right there.
 

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when she brought it up again i said...'Only because shes is the closest thing to you" and she said "Psshh you think im an idiot?''

then after she said "When i asked you that question, I was hoping you would say,'You are the only woman i ever want to have sex with and I think about no other woman but you because i love you''

In reality, before i even answereed the question i said "I only think of you in that way'' (LOL)...and she said..''Oh i know you do, Im saying if i werent in the picture and she wasnt married and you 2 were home alone and she said Come here into my bed"

Then my gf kept saying..Just say you would i wanna hear u admit it..So i said yea whatever but only in that cirumstance..

Didnt work
 

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jadeona13 said:
when she brought it up again i said...'Only because shes is the closest thing to you" and she said "Psshh you think im an idiot?''
You are an idiot for trying that line, its so cheesy and AFC, you deserved to get your azz handed to you by her.

jadeona13 said:
then after she said "When i asked you that question, I was hoping you would say,'You are the only woman i ever want to have sex with and I think about no other woman but you because i love you''

In reality, before i even answereed the question i said "I only think of you in that way'' (LOL)...and she said..''Oh i know you do, Im saying if i werent in the picture and she wasnt married and you 2 were home alone and she said Come here into my bed"

Then my gf kept saying..Just say you would i wanna hear u admit it..So i said yea whatever but only in that cirumstance..

Didnt work
All of her lines are gobbly gook. Your problem is your trying to justify to her. Like I said in my post, a man doesn't need to supplicate to a women for his actions. He doesn't need to be sorry for being a man. Your attitude is all wrong and thats why she's walking all over you.

Your allowing her to control the relationship. Next thing you know, she's going to use sex as a weapon. You need to man up real quick or get ready for the end of this relationship because your pushing her away with your AFC'ness.
 

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OK I just read the 4 other threads you started yesterday about her, you need to move on and get a grip of your life. How old are you 2, how long have you been seeing each other exclusively?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Another way of handling it, other than making a funny comment back, would be to look her in the eye, completely dead serious, almost as if disgusted, and say: "Do you have some sort of sick issues I should know about?" and then be completely stoic and quiet waiting for her to respond.

You'll probably see her squirming while she's thinking, "Oh sh1t".

It's called "qualifying".
 

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Mr. Me said:
Another way of handling it, other than making a funny comment back, would be to look her in the eye, completely dead serious, almost as if disgusted, and say: "Do you have some sort of sick issues I should know about?" and then be completely stoic and quiet waiting for her to respond.

You'll probably see her squirming while she's thinking, "Oh sh1t".

It's called "qualifying".
:up:

Mr Me, I like your thinking.
 
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like i said before, spare yourself, and break up with her. shes got you by the balls
 
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