"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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gf and I got into debate about buying drinks for girls

aix237

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So me and my bpd gf went out. Some dude asked her for a cig. She gave one to the guy. The guy knew I was with her. But she then said to him what are we shooting? Dude buys her a drink. Cool with me cause she's broke and im buying her s1ht for her all the time. I then said dudes a chump cause he bought u a drink and he knew I was with u. She then said oh I thought u told me if a girl came up and asked me to buy a drink I would. Think that was an excuse for her to do it. I said wtf did I say that? I never do that. I have girls buy me drinks which is true. I then said how would u feel if I bought a random girl a drink? Said what I thought and iwas like exactly.
Im a student of mystery and follow his sh1t religiously. I wanted to bring all that sh1t up but I didn't. I did say though what makes a random girl have such value that I should buy them a drink? She said its customary. I laughed and said yea ok. She probably thought I was hinting at her cause I buy her drinks but I wasnt . I was only telling her I dontdo that sh1t.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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aix237 said:
So me and my bpd gf
That pretty much did it for me.

NEXT!!

Word of advice: maybe it just me but I find it hard to decipher your post, it seems as if you are just typing the words that come to your thoughts that makes sense to you but when it comes to explaining the whole story to others in a more clear and concise manner, you may have lost the objective.

aix237 said:
She said its customary
That is a typical entitlement attitude chicks in North America have due to desperate guys doing despereate things.

The thing is with the guy that bought your girl a shot, I didn't sense he was desperately trying to pick her up (knowing you were there) but rather a way of "thanking" her for the free smoke. Although I don't doubt for a second that he is the type of a guy that buys his time and if he runs into your girl next time without you being around, it shouldn't be too difficult for him to break the ice and try to get in there.
 

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Dude, why sit there and argue with your girl over buying drinks. If she's getting some douche to buy her a drink, and you get some slob to buy you a drink, and you both go home with eachother after a night of free drinks, then guess who wins.

Not that this happens very often, but when I go out with my girl, the first round is always on some poor slump. She walks in, finds a guy, chats him up for a bit, gets him to buy her a shot of patron chats him up a bit more and gets a bicardi/coke chaser. Guess who the second drink is for.

5-10 minutes of conversation and 2 drinks. I WIN!!!
 

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aix237 said:
I then said dudes a chump cause he bought u a drink
Why, she knows this already. Or did you just want to highlight your elite set of social skill knowledge?

aix237 said:
Im a student of mystery and follow his sh1t religiously. I wanted to bring all that sh1t up but I didn't.
Yeah try to suppress that urge if it comes up again.

I dont even understand why you made this post, and why is your writing so sh!tty to understand, I'm no spelling nazi or anything but wtf.
 

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Last time I was in Vegas it was with mega-boob party girl, best run we had was 3 rounds of free drinks and she still came back to the hotel with me every damn night. Viva Las Vegas.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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This is the same girl we talked about last time? Whole thing has been covered before. you guys just didn't see the thread. don't waste your time.[not even worth my time to fix this message]
 

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Your post reads like one long text message.

Word of the day: Colloquial (adj)----pertaining to words or expressions more suitable for speech than writing; in informal, conversational style
 
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