"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Getting with ex's friend

brian123

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I dated a girl for a few years, and broke up with her ~3 years ago. She always had this really good friend who I thought was cute. After a few years of not seeing her, I ran into this friend last night. We talked/hung out for a while (I still have her # from years back)

Is this a worthwhile endeavor, and if so how should I approach it? Or is it just a lost cause.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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amoka

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Why did you break-up? Think about this and call her.
 

brian123

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amoka said:
Why did you break-up? Think about this and call her.
Just to clarify, I am in no way trying to get back with my ex. I am trying to get with my ex's friend.

My ex and I broke up because we just drifted apart, and I am pretty sure she started seeing another guy on the side of me (I haven't spoke with my ex in ~3 yrs).
 

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Noob said:
might aswell go for it, you got nothing to lose. ask her to go to coffee or something to 'catch up'

She is really in to music and my buddy's band is playing in two weeks. I think Ill see if she will come out to that (no pressure approach)
 
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