"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Getting with ex's friend

brian123

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I dated a girl for a few years, and broke up with her ~3 years ago. She always had this really good friend who I thought was cute. After a few years of not seeing her, I ran into this friend last night. We talked/hung out for a while (I still have her # from years back)

Is this a worthwhile endeavor, and if so how should I approach it? Or is it just a lost cause.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Why did you break-up? Think about this and call her.
 

brian123

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amoka said:
Why did you break-up? Think about this and call her.
Just to clarify, I am in no way trying to get back with my ex. I am trying to get with my ex's friend.

My ex and I broke up because we just drifted apart, and I am pretty sure she started seeing another guy on the side of me (I haven't spoke with my ex in ~3 yrs).
 

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Noob said:
might aswell go for it, you got nothing to lose. ask her to go to coffee or something to 'catch up'

She is really in to music and my buddy's band is playing in two weeks. I think Ill see if she will come out to that (no pressure approach)
 
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