"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Getting unwanted attention from girls who are crazy for your nuts

The_Reaper

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Ever get that? You make a girl fall for you - hard - but you were only interested in the wonderful transient pleasure of draining your nuts in her vagina.

Now she's emotionally invested, in love with you, calling or texting or emailing all the time, with tonnes of questions about your life, your dreams, your goals, blatantly telling you how enamoured she is with you.

Whoaaa, slow down baby.

My mistake was that I continued being interesting and ****y and blah blah after I f*cked her, instead of just pumping and dumping and cutting contact.

I don't feel comfortable with hurting a girl's feelings or being cold to her - I'd rather she picked up the laid-back, indifferent vibe and be cool with it.

Thoughts?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Hughman

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Men cannot separate love and friendship. Women cannot separate love and sex.

That's all I can input from personal experience. I can keyboard-jockey and regurgitate how to turn her into a casual f-buddy, but I'll leave that to the guys that have done that enough times.
 

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lol hahahaha that was hilarious im going through this right now....idk....yea she's starting to feel more and i ****ing hate that!!! where's the ones who can be like your homeboyz but likes to have sex with you...lol!!! truth b-told f-buddy'z never work..somebody always ends up wanting more....
 

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I doubt you can f-buddy her without her hating you.

It's going to end badly. If you cut contact with her to a minimum she will probably get over you eventually though. It will still be awkward and mean but at least it won't blow up into anything worse.
 

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Maybe you could turn up the chumpdom hardcore. Start calling her all the time and start getting all clingy and insecure. Constantly question her about what she was doing and pretend to be suspicious that she's cheating on you. That will make her bolt in a hurry and she'll think it's her idea too.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Lexington said:
Maybe you could turn up the chumpdom hardcore. Start calling her all the time and start getting all clingy and insecure. Constantly question her about what she was doing and pretend to be suspicious that she's cheating on you. That will make her bolt in a hurry and she'll think it's her idea too.
Almost fullproof advice. I don't know if I could ever do it myself, but it's guaranteed to work. If it doesn't...oh man you have one messed up girl on your hands.
 

The_Reaper

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Lexington said:
Maybe you could turn up the chumpdom hardcore. Start calling her all the time and start getting all clingy and insecure. Constantly question her about what she was doing and pretend to be suspicious that she's cheating on you. That will make her bolt in a hurry and she'll think it's her idea too.
I would rather chop off and fry my own balls.
 

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PeeGee said:
Almost fullproof advice. I don't know if I could ever do it myself, but it's guaranteed to work. If it doesn't...oh man you have one messed up girl on your hands.
the irony :crackup:

Good Luck

last girl that happen with , ended up being my GF for 3 years and breaking up with me cuz "I" was too clingy a.k.a. AFC ... so the advice given will work , it just might take a while . . .
 

The_Reaper

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That advice is too dangerous.

Next thing you know she'll be telling everyone we're a couple and we're happy etc.

Breaking hearts isn't as fun as you would think it is....
 

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Who gives a ****... Just stop talking to her.

What are you worried about, Hurting her feelings? Don't worry about it because she is simply lusting for you.

She will get over it when the next guy rails her, you will be a very distant memory.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Ice882

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HalfAddict said:
Who gives a ****... Just stop talking to her.

What are you worried about, Hurting her feelings? Don't worry about it because she is simply lusting for you.

She will get over it when the next guy rails her, you will be a very distant memory.
That's not true at all. Women aren't guys.
 

The_Reaper

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HalfAddict said:
Who gives a ****... Just stop talking to her.

What are you worried about, Hurting her feelings? Don't worry about it because she is simply lusting for you.

She will get over it when the next guy rails her, you will be a very distant memory.
Actually yeah. One of my sticking points, or issues I have to deal with, is my fear of hurting a girl.

Your last line is good, I need to use that as motivation :D


No offense intended here, but I notice many of you seem to have semi-autistic social skills and seem to lack the ability to naturally establish a powerful connection with a woman. Only then, when that bond is brutally broken, will you learn how upset and emotionally devastated a person can be.
 

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Just tell her upfront what you want to happen...why are you caring about her feelings you shouldve give a fvck!
 

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why dont you just do the crazy weird and just far out nutty thing of just telling her how it is. If you like her, but just want her to relax herself, tell her. if your old enough to get physical with her your more than old enough to tell her whats going on inside your head.

If you no longer want anything with her, then again just get on with it, dont string her along and give her false hope. that's just weak. ignore the posts above, its good that you at least care about this person enough to consider her feelings but dont play games. say what you mean and mean what you say. good luck
 

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Earlier on in the interaction (i.e. pre-sex), you need to talk about how important your career/school/your hobbies/your garden/your pet fish is to you. You need to throw a solid anchor in to something in your life and demonstrate genuine passion in it. It's a built-in bail. When she asks about a relationship or whatnot, you tell her that "I'm too devoted to _________ right now to have time for anything else". Be nice about it, but firm. That way you still leave the door open for some casual sex down the road, but quash the relationship idea for the time being.

You can do this without hurting her or yourself, and that's the important part.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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