"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Getting too personal....

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ok so im at work...me and some other co-workers were sort of chillen and this girl stacy was talking to this other co-worker of ours james over the phone...some other co-workers were joking talking about "i think somethings going on between them and yada yada yada...'' so she says their just friends... so today i go up to her and say "so how are things going between you and james??" and she gives me this mean look....

so then my other co-worker fred overheard it and came up to me later and said "hey...dont joke like that..." i said "why?" he said "thats not cool...its at work! its not cool!!" so then i laugh it off...

then it hit me....am i getting to personal with my co-workers?? i mean yeah i just work with them and its none of my business if they are going out or not cuz when it comes down to it...i only work with them...were not friends...

i need to fix this about myself...any advice??
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Never get personal with co-workers!

this is just a rule of life. Don't be too friendly, just concentrate on your job. Coworkers are some of the most gossip loving, backstabbing people around.

If you allow yourself to be too friendly with them, this leaves you open for disrespect. If you keep your relationship with them strictly on a profesional level you will be respected and nobody is gonna mess with you.
 
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so then my other co-worker fred overheard it and came up to me later and said "hey...dont joke like that..." i said "why?" he said "thats not cool...its at work! its not cool!!" so then i laugh it off...
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2 possibilities

1. They are doing something and it is frowned on by the business you work at.

2. They were, or almost were, and things got tense and nobody wants to deal with the situation. (hence the no relations with other employees most workplaces have)

Either way, you're a little behind the gossip or you're not picking up the vibes most of the other employees already noticed. You don't have that particular gossip skill. Overall, this probably means you are a better person so don't try to develop it. Getting too good at gossip is a sign of weak character. Play along to be social but don't try to initiate unless you want to be the ugliest of "the girls".
 
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Do you take a sleep and take a shower at your work place or talk about your grooming behaviors? No? It's too personal??? Same forth for personal discussions about coworker's personal lives.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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It depends on the girl you're saying this too.. I'd imagine if she has a sense of humour she would just laugh it off..

I'm guessing she's one of those frigid boring types, that's why you're co-workers told you that it's not cool to mess with her like that.

Either way, who cares.. what you said was a pretty innocent comment.
 
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quit being such a nosy woman you sound like my mom for real.
 
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Originally posted by Flint Stoner
It depends on the girl you're saying this too.. I'd imagine if she has a sense of humour she would just laugh it off..

I'm guessing she's one of those frigid boring types, that's why you're co-workers told you that it's not cool to mess with her like that.

Either way, who cares.. what you said was a pretty innocent comment.
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i agree
 
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