"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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getting too comfortable

wetheliving

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Lately I have become very confident, which is a good thing, but the thing now is that I don't seem care about anything.

It's like I've gotten my priorities straight and I've figured out what's important and what's not, only now I seem to be ignoring the little things, the things that shouldn't be someone's top priority, but nevertheless shouldn't be altogether neglected either.

For example:

I feel so confident at work, that I often show up unshaved or without having really styled my hair or without wearing cologne, of course I do take care of my hygiene, but I don't bother to try and show off or make the best of my presentation.

The funny thing is that I'm walking around like I own my place even though sometimes look like I just got out of bed, what's even more funny is that the chicks love it. I don't wether it is because they think I'm just hot (which I could imagine) or because it's that I don't give fuk attitude that I seem to have that gets them attracted.

I feel good about being like this, but I do sometimes feel like I should put in a bit more effort into the little things, I just seem to be basically focused on my big goals and priorities that stuff like shaving seems irrelevant.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I'm Joe Dirt

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That's a good attitude to have, but you should still take care of yourself and shave regularly and stuff.
 

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That post made me think of the narrator in Fight Club.


:p :p :p :p :p :p
 
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