Recently I have noticed this cute girl in my chemistry class that I have never talked to. I am fairly shy myself, but not to bad. The thing is though, this girl is VERY shy. I rarley hear her speak. I have never talked to her before. So I was wondering how do I deal with this? How should I go about getting to know her?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Getting to know a shy girl
- Thread starter CarpeDiem
- Start date
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Supremo
Senior Don Juan
Ahh you've grabbed my attention.
I was gonna stop posting for a while but this is just too similar to how my current girlfriend was.
Here's the low-low:
1. It'll be HARD to get her to open up.
2. You'll doubt that she likes you, because she's so shy.
3. Things will be awkward for a while after you start dating, until you build some serious rapport.
But, when she does open up... it'll all pay off. Seriously it took like a month and a half before my girlfriend and I became really comfortable together.
Like Alkali said, treat it as anyone else... it's just gonna take longer.
I just gave you some of the things you will notice, but not to worry about.
Good luck man
I was gonna stop posting for a while but this is just too similar to how my current girlfriend was.
Here's the low-low:
1. It'll be HARD to get her to open up.
2. You'll doubt that she likes you, because she's so shy.
3. Things will be awkward for a while after you start dating, until you build some serious rapport.
But, when she does open up... it'll all pay off. Seriously it took like a month and a half before my girlfriend and I became really comfortable together.
Like Alkali said, treat it as anyone else... it's just gonna take longer.
I just gave you some of the things you will notice, but not to worry about.
Good luck man
Lexie
Don Juan
She may not be shy at all, she might just not talk in this class.
Just go for it, ask her non-personal questions at first so she doesn't feel put-on the spot.
Just go for it, ask her non-personal questions at first so she doesn't feel put-on the spot.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
SHY = uncomfortable (around you)
I am into this shy korean girl, but I see her w/her buddies (some of mutual buddies) and she is not shy at ALL. But whenever we're together it's awkward. I say something funny, we laugh then there's that awkward silence like, "ehhhh ok now what."
I am into this shy korean girl, but I see her w/her buddies (some of mutual buddies) and she is not shy at ALL. But whenever we're together it's awkward. I say something funny, we laugh then there's that awkward silence like, "ehhhh ok now what."
^that's b/c she's in a foreign countryPotbelly said:SHY = uncomfortable (around you)
I am into this shy korean girl, but I see her w/her buddies (some of mutual buddies) and she is not shy at ALL. But whenever we're together it's awkward. I say something funny, we laugh then there's that awkward silence like, "ehhhh ok now what."
Asian girls can be easy/hard to game depending on their maturity and how comfortable they are in that country..
Anyway.. shy girls take longer, but the results can be a lot better.
b/c youre not too loud in class, she should feel more confident around you.
Just work with her one day, make fluff talk. I find you dont need to grab a shy girls interest straight away b/c its more than enough that youre speaking to her. Then as she begins to relax, I throw in some c+f.. and you'll find they can be funny. You;ll be able to tell when she feels comfortable around you~
Uh, do you know her or something?Red07 said:^that's b/c she's in a foreign country
Asian girls can be easy/hard to game depending on their maturity and how comfortable they are in that country..
Anyway.. shy girls take longer, but the results can be a lot better.
b/c youre not too loud in class, she should feel more confident around you.
Just work with her one day, make fluff talk. I find you dont need to grab a shy girls interest straight away b/c its more than enough that youre speaking to her. Then as she begins to relax, I throw in some c+f.. and you'll find they can be funny. You;ll be able to tell when she feels comfortable around you~
She's Korean (like someone is black/white/etc.) She is from Texas. Not Korea haha. Your parents are what make you who you are...not always necessarily where you are from. Geez
Good advice for the OP btw.