Recently I have noticed this cute girl in my chemistry class that I have never talked to. I am fairly shy myself, but not to bad. The thing is though, this girl is VERY shy. I rarley hear her speak. I have never talked to her before. So I was wondering how do I deal with this? How should I go about getting to know her?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Getting to know a shy girl
- Thread starter CarpeDiem
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Supremo
Senior Don Juan
Ahh you've grabbed my attention.
I was gonna stop posting for a while but this is just too similar to how my current girlfriend was.
Here's the low-low:
1. It'll be HARD to get her to open up.
2. You'll doubt that she likes you, because she's so shy.
3. Things will be awkward for a while after you start dating, until you build some serious rapport.
But, when she does open up... it'll all pay off. Seriously it took like a month and a half before my girlfriend and I became really comfortable together.
Like Alkali said, treat it as anyone else... it's just gonna take longer.
I just gave you some of the things you will notice, but not to worry about.
Good luck man
I was gonna stop posting for a while but this is just too similar to how my current girlfriend was.
Here's the low-low:
1. It'll be HARD to get her to open up.
2. You'll doubt that she likes you, because she's so shy.
3. Things will be awkward for a while after you start dating, until you build some serious rapport.
But, when she does open up... it'll all pay off. Seriously it took like a month and a half before my girlfriend and I became really comfortable together.
Like Alkali said, treat it as anyone else... it's just gonna take longer.
I just gave you some of the things you will notice, but not to worry about.
Good luck man
Lexie
Don Juan
She may not be shy at all, she might just not talk in this class.
Just go for it, ask her non-personal questions at first so she doesn't feel put-on the spot.
Just go for it, ask her non-personal questions at first so she doesn't feel put-on the spot.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
SHY = uncomfortable (around you)
I am into this shy korean girl, but I see her w/her buddies (some of mutual buddies) and she is not shy at ALL. But whenever we're together it's awkward. I say something funny, we laugh then there's that awkward silence like, "ehhhh ok now what."
I am into this shy korean girl, but I see her w/her buddies (some of mutual buddies) and she is not shy at ALL. But whenever we're together it's awkward. I say something funny, we laugh then there's that awkward silence like, "ehhhh ok now what."
^that's b/c she's in a foreign countryPotbelly said:SHY = uncomfortable (around you)
I am into this shy korean girl, but I see her w/her buddies (some of mutual buddies) and she is not shy at ALL. But whenever we're together it's awkward. I say something funny, we laugh then there's that awkward silence like, "ehhhh ok now what."
Asian girls can be easy/hard to game depending on their maturity and how comfortable they are in that country..
Anyway.. shy girls take longer, but the results can be a lot better.
b/c youre not too loud in class, she should feel more confident around you.
Just work with her one day, make fluff talk. I find you dont need to grab a shy girls interest straight away b/c its more than enough that youre speaking to her. Then as she begins to relax, I throw in some c+f.. and you'll find they can be funny. You;ll be able to tell when she feels comfortable around you~
Uh, do you know her or something?Red07 said:^that's b/c she's in a foreign country
Asian girls can be easy/hard to game depending on their maturity and how comfortable they are in that country..
Anyway.. shy girls take longer, but the results can be a lot better.
b/c youre not too loud in class, she should feel more confident around you.
Just work with her one day, make fluff talk. I find you dont need to grab a shy girls interest straight away b/c its more than enough that youre speaking to her. Then as she begins to relax, I throw in some c+f.. and you'll find they can be funny. You;ll be able to tell when she feels comfortable around you~
She's Korean (like someone is black/white/etc.) She is from Texas. Not Korea haha. Your parents are what make you who you are...not always necessarily where you are from. Geez
Good advice for the OP btw.