“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Getting to congruency

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Recent red pill here. I've mentioned in a previous post that I've become aware of other people's negative reactions in social situations with me.

I've broken it down into two main issues:
  1. Feeling anxiety (partly due to outcome dependence/neediness) and expressing that in my subcommunication.
  2. Trying to force a different outward appearance and showing incongruency.
I came across this video that covers incongruent behaviour.


He covers the following:
  • Communication is 7% words, 93% everything else
  • Subcommunication (the 93%) overwhelmingly affects other people around you
  • Most people (myself included) try to fake the subcommunication. People see through this
  • Until you fix how you feel about yourself you will come off as incongruent
  • Once you change how you feel about yourself you need to express that feeling through your body rather than your head
  • ie: it's not about how you stand, it's about how you feel when you stand.
  • Move your body a lot! Do it often and enjoy moving it
  • You can apply the above with voice tonality as well. Feel the emotion first and use that emotion to come through with your voice (again I'm guilty of this, I came off like a robot trying to be more deep with my voice)
So his ideas are that you need to become aware of your emotion and build a relationship with your body.

What other tips have you guys read about being congruent?
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Soflobro said:
That is one ugly looking dude in the video
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I think it's mainly because it doesn't seem like he has eyebrows. There's some other stuff there... but where the hell are the eyebrows.

In regards to the actual thread, I think this is where the origin of 'be yourself' comes from. The typical idea is that means 'Oh I can relax and not care, just do whatever'. Which is wrong. But I take it as more... find a style that fits you. Work on the things that are definitely the foundation (like not being monotone, having good posture, having good volume while talking, etc.) - but don't try to completely reinvent yourself either. I'd try to work on one thing at a time... but keeping in mind all of the basics.
 
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