"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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brolly

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Hey guys been back in game recently but one thing I have noticed is when I open a set the women seem defensive and I get the overwhelming feeling they want me to leave ASAP.... I am factoring in what I could be doing to cause this however I feel it may be more along the lines of what I am not doing to build a degree of value/ interest in having me around for the interaction... any thoughts?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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There waa some stuff Bobby Rio talked about with that and he basically said you have to give it 5 minutes to let them warm up to you and it doesn't really matter what you talk about, you just keep going. Once you hit 5 minutes then you will have built some type of comfort and they will see you differently than the random guy who gets nervous and leaves immediately. Said a lot of guys think they are getting shut down and leave too soon when if they just would have stayed and let the women warm up to them they may have had a decent chance.

I would have to go find it to get exactly what he said but that was the gist of it...that guys blow themselves out before they have given women a chance to warm up to them.
 

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what is your "opening set"?

Also, many women nowadays are propagandized. If you open up on a feminist you're not likely to get anywhere no matter you say or do, they will think you're being toxic and reject you outright.

I find that a knowing smile does more than most words can say
 
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