"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Getting the Phone Number, but it ends there...

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Before I had my girlfriend, I would go out to the local dance clubs with my close buds and pick up on the girls there. We got a lot of phone numbers, and it was always interesting to see where things would end up with the girls from there.

I danced with girls that were engaged, got phone numbers from girls that were in relationships, got a lot of fake numbers, and met a lot of single girls. In that kind of environment, it's really hard to gauge the girl's actual interest level in you. Some are out to have fun with their friends, some have no backbone and will give you their number even though they don't really want to, and some do it for an ego boost. Most of the good looking women in there (especially if alcohol is involved) are approached by several guys a night, so you may be at a disadvantage already when you approach them ("oh great, another guy is going to spit a drunken slur at me")

At the same token, there are a lot of hot single girls in these environments that will give you a real phone number and will really want you to contact them. Sometimes it takes a little screening to find which ones they are, but sometimes you have to have blind luck to find one. A couple years ago, I met a girl who I really hit it off with at a local dance club, and we casually dated for a couple months, but the majority of girls (including my current g/f) I've dated I've met in more normal, "safe" places.

The context you're in can play a big part of the overall interaction between you and the women there. If you're looking for a girlfriend, you're probably better off searching at some place where you two have common ground (exercise program, some hobby you have). Don't let a few bad apples discourage you though. Eventually, if you're persistent, you WILL find someone who you're compatible with.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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